Matt Forney interviewed me on his podcast last week and has it posted. It was largely about my new book, but the conversation took an interesting turn and an important lesson was learned - no guy really enjoys treating women like shit.
We just don't.
We'd much prefer to be kind, charming, or at least civil. Sadly, to have a modicum of success with today's women you do need to set aside your preferences and act aloof, indifferent, and like a jerk as those are the rules. It takes some doing and it can be done (it has to be), but I NEVER liked it. It never seemed natural. Always twinged when I did it.
Anyway, just wanted it down in the history books that men don't enjoy it.
Its kind of like opera, you can learn to enjoy it.
ReplyDeleteSadly (and infuriatingly) the reverse is NOT true. From a lifetime of experience, I can confidently claim that women not only like treating men (with the exception of the top 10%, of course) like shit -- they positively THRIVE on it.
ReplyDeleteUntil they reach their thirties and see The Wall approaching, of course. Then they start claiming how they are "Not Like That" and start spouting such rubbish about how they are "against feminism".
Some do. Sociopaths. Women love sociopaths.
ReplyDeleteThis is the mark of an intelligent, renaissance man. The man of the mind as well as the body. Such men will be spoken of as we now speak of giants. Yes Aaron, you are one of these, so am I and most of your readers. Be well Sir.
ReplyDeleteWhat nonsense. One doesn't like sitting in a cold deer stand at 6 in the morning or tracking wolves across the tundra for their pelts. But we, we men, do it for the reward, for the good of our families and our tribe. Hey, it's not like women are going to make that kind of sacrifice.
ReplyDeleteYes, a lack of civility will not create much happiness for yourself and the opposite sex.
ReplyDeleteGood rule, just be honest with yourself and with women. We don't like bullshit. Cheers!
ReplyDelete@Anonymous 3:25 PM
ReplyDelete"Women love sociopaths."
That's because women ARE sociopaths. ;-)
This is so true! I hate acting like an asshole, but this is what brings in results. But it poisons my soul in the long run.
ReplyDeleteI am not sociopath enough I suppose.