My observations will be kept short and succinct because it's Friday and I don't feel like working.
1. We all need to step back, clear the gunk from our eyes and look at this for what it truly is. We are allowing full grown adult women to grow in this society to the point they reach the age of 40 and still think this bullshit not only flies, but think this is perfectly acceptable adult behavior. It is NOT adult behavior, it is insulting, it is childish and it is all too common.
2. While some people will make claims this whole "manosphere/red pill" thing is a bunch of sour grapes basement dwelling virgins, it is stuff like this that proves it is not. There IS something wrong with the male-female dynamics in this society and (while men do have their flaws and are certainly to blame) the blame is disproportionately and deservedly laid on women.
3. Before you assume something about this guy's physique because he's a software programmer, I have met this agent in the field. Hiked with the guy. He is in GREAT shape and good looking too. Add to that him never being married, no kids, no baggage, you'd think a 40 year old woman would be THANKFUL to find this diamond in the rough.
No, no. "My friend's car broke down."
Ladies, I know "you" don't do these things. And I know your friends don't do these things. That's because you're good women and you only surround yourselves with equally good women. But you have to believe us men when we recount experiences and episodes such as this as you aren't the majority of women. This stuff is bullshit, it's all too common, and apparently, given this is a 40 year old woman, it ain't going away.
if your friend is as great as you suggest, why is he going for a 40 year old woman. he is aiming low and should be going after younger women
ReplyDeleteshe probably feels that he is too good for her after seeing his photo and has decided to bail out rather than take a chance.
could be the car actually broke down. one 40 year old i was going to date said 20 minutes before our date that she had a flat. i made her send me a picture. she had a flat.
ReplyDeletewe never did go on any other date, as she was pissed off that i didn't automatically believe her.
This lame-ass excuse/lie/flake ranks right up there with;
ReplyDeleteHer: "My cat is sick"
Me: NEXT!
~Survivorman
Case in point why men need to decline to participate in these online ego-stoking, attention whoring, hypergamy optimizers where these women-children lay in wait to extract what they can from the commodity that is the modern man.
ReplyDeleteMen who play the Facebook, Tinder, OKC, and other vapid roulette wheels of semi-professional prostitutes and strong independent women deserve what they get.
They are feeding the beast for the occasional lay. Grinding through these narcissistic women is just one price - a small one at that, of the shortcuts through what remains of humanity in the name of convenience and efficiency.
Just because some handsome men may occasionally do the grinding does not negate the fact that the participation in such things is propping up a reward system that perpetually circumvents decent human behavior and any hope of restoring feminine agency.
Until men withdrawal from these systemic inputs, the outcomes will continue to degrade. The pattern of these women-children gorging on the sweet-treats of the sexual marketplace until they are climbing the wall, fat and angry with Type II, looking to lay blame for their ills at the feet of the very men they ground into pixie dust in route to the next best thing must stop.
It is up to grown-up men to take their candy away. Or else shut the hell up about these spoiled, hyperactive children they helped produce.
Not only that, but "my friend's car broke down???"
ReplyDeleteDoes she not own her own goddamned car?
At 40 years old?
In Phoenix?
Bullet dodged...
2nd that sentiment. i went thru enough of that shit that i made my own set of dating rules and if it means i die alone, so be it:
ReplyDelete1. if youre 10 minutes late with no call, the date is over; i'm going to the bar now and a second chance date; she is buying.
2. late at 15 minutes with a call, i order a beer; if she's still not there when i'm done; the date is over and i go to the bar.
3. cancelling anytime the day of and you're out.
i just dont need women that bad. sorry women, you've been replaced by better options(beer, cigars and sports).
Yeah, seriously, if you get cold feet, and decided you'd rather not, just SAY so.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure she did this because she figured it was kinder, or something.
I know as I guy, I rather be told. "Sorry , look you seem nice, but not for me." OR "Look, I'm getting cold feet about this date, no thanks. "
Then frankly reasonable man will will go: sigh. Fine, whatever, and I'd better go better pick up a bottle of Chianti to go with my own omelet tonight."
But yeah, 40 y.o. with out a working car in Phoenix... uh huh.
The problem is, this 40-year-old is actually ahead of the game. There's lots of girls who don't even give notice when they're not going to show. So this woman will be able to self-justify her behavior because there are other women who are soooo self-centered as to just leave men hanging left-and-right. In the end, she can just say, "well, I gave notice," and feel good that she's not one of the truly NPD-infected women who treat male attention like poop.
ReplyDeleteYes, that's how bad it is. In order to take corrective action at this point, the men of the developed world would have to literally stop talking to women at the first hint of disrespectful behavior, as your friend did.
" meerkat said...
ReplyDeleteshe probably feels that he is too good for her after seeing his photo"
Wahahahahahaha ! meerkat, you need to get out more man. If you are a man, of course.
my water broke
ReplyDeletemy psycho ex is following me
I need to get my kid out of jail
Could you make my bail?
I'm a little edgy my dealer got busted
40? Cap, I got on the elevator yesterday and some tatted up, obviously single cougars in their 50's got on. They were dressed like 16 year olds and the conversation they were having would have embarrassed a 14 year old. I don't think they will ever grow up.
ReplyDeleteOne of the other bloggers was saying that women should legally be considered the same way children are...and he has some solid ground to stand on when he says that.
I also have enough of this type of bullshit..my resources now go to 22 year old whores.
ReplyDeleteIt wasn't all that long ago that women were considered like children, legally speaking. Not allowed to take out loans etc
ReplyDeleteBTDT
ReplyDeleteWomen can be 55 and pull this c**p. But if they do that be thankful, because they just saved you a world of hurt.
Here's the thing a 40 year old woman will tend to carry a lot of emotional baggage, enough that many aren't worth the effort. They are very much "damaged goods", they've been through a bad marriage or LTR or two or worse tried to climb the corporate ladder which went to the basement instead which leaves them angry and vindictive.
I say let their flakiness be a sign to stay away from them. Be grateful they warned you off instead playing nice then bare the fangs.
40? Cap, I got on the elevator yesterday and some tatted up, obviously single cougars in their 50's got on. They were dressed like 16 year olds and the conversation they were having would have embarrassed a 14 year old. I don't think they will ever grow up.
ReplyDeleteAnd you've never once seen a group of 50-something douche-bros doing the same thing?
One of the other bloggers was saying that women should legally be considered the same way children are...and he has some solid ground to stand on when he says that.
No, he doesn't. Fuck him for saying that. He's made the huge mistake, as you are, of seeing a group of women in their 50's acting shitty, and assuming that all women are likewise shitty.
My mother is in her 50's. No tattoos. Married to the same man (my father) for 35 years now. Once she's raised her youngest (me) to the age of 13, she got back into the job market, became a shrewd business woman, and earned enough that my Dad and her retired at 50 and have been living it up for the last 10 years.
Am I to extrapolate, then, from that experience, that ALL women are good mothers, dvoted wives, and shrewd business women?
No, because that would be fucking stupid.
The same amount of stupid that it takes to assume that all women are children because you saw some women on an elevator acting like children once.
But yeah, 40 y.o. with out a working car in Phoenix... uh huh.
ReplyDeleteVery first thing I honed in on.
Cappy, PLEASE tell us that your friend was doing this just for laughs. As a decade-long resident of central Arizona, all I can say is that if he's lived in the Phoenix area for any length of time, he should know that single woman over 35 = skanky loser. NO EXCEPTIONS.