TJ Martinell of Cascadia fame had an interesting observation in his latest podcast about how what women would be like if they were supportive instead of adversarial as they are today. I've often said women have three choices, two of which are acceptable:
Support
Silence
Nag/criticize/obstruct
You can figure out which two are acceptable.
However, there is a lot more to whether women choose to support men or fight them, whether they are in a relationship or not. Do women support men socially by voting what is in the best interests of society? Do women support men in simply letting them be and be men? Do women support men in the case they are dating or married to them? Or do they insist on being a thorn in their side nearly every step of the way? And if it's the latter, what sociological, psychological, economic and political ramifications are their when there's an effective civil war between the sexes.
When I get more time I'll delve into it, but it's sad that TJ had to ask the question "What if women were supportive?" Alas, I guess that's a question nearly every generation since the WWII generation had to ask themselves in that as far as I can remember, it's been an "Us vs. Them" relationship instead of a Batman and Robin dynamic duo kicking ass and taking names.
It all goes back to the whole 'submission' thing. It is natural for women to want to submit to a man - you only have to look at the covers of cheap romance serials to get a load of that. Yet somehow women are being taught that it is better for girls to be rude, feisty, and angry...that they should swear like sailors, get gauges and tattoos, sleep around and 'experience' life. And if they don't, they are missing out. YOLO.
ReplyDeleteOf course, men have bought into this as well, or there wouldn't be so many women running roughshod over them. There is the manosphere for that - where is the equivalent for women outside of organized religion? Which, unless you are from a *very* conservative family with a strong father figure (Amish, Mormon, Jewish, Catholic) your religion's sway in keeping bad behavior in check is probably nil.
That said, Abraham and Sarah in the bible had their ups and downs as well, and they were one of the power couples of the Old Testament. Friction between the sexes is nothing new. What's new is the idea that women can do everything a man can, and can do it better...a lie as insidious as the inverse.
-Mormon Mom