The price lazy people pay for choosing "the easy" way in life costs them nothing short of their lives. Chasing stupid degrees. Getting fat and believing they'll find love. Never hitting the gym and thinking they'll find "da gurlz." All 78 years of your average American's life expectancy is wasted hoping sitting on their ass will result in life success. But it does not. And this excerpt not only shows this through the story of two people, but hopefully prompts the reader (and anybody you share it with) to stop squandering their lives choosing the path of laziness.
"Allow me to tell you the tale of two
people.
The first is about my Vietnamese
buddy. He went to school for Electrical Engineering. Graduated with
honors. And then proceeded to make gobs of money after college.
Even during the financial crisis of 2008 he held onto his job, and
though he didn’t receive any raises during that time, he did manage
to buy a very nice house for ½ of what it was originally listed for
two years earlier…for cash. Upon the economic recovery, his career
continued to soar where he inevitably made the jump to management,
making over $200,000 a year. He could retire today if he wanted to.
The man is 43.
The other person is not my
Vietnamese buddy. She is a weathered, middle-aged woman. She had
two kids out of wedlock. She followed her dream of working with
children and got her degree in Early Childhood Education. And though
she did have a modicum of success in this career, she did not survive
the recession so well, getting laid off due to budget cuts. She also
unfortunately bought her dilapidated home at the peak of the bubble,
inevitably having it fall into foreclosure. And during that time to
make ends meet she tried to raise chickens, MLM schemes, inevitably
having to work retail just to put food on the table. And this was
just for one person as both her daughters had moved out of the home
long ago. Today she is insolvent, perpetually angry, blames
everything on men, naturally wants a bailout, and will have to work
until she is dead. But not once did she ever think about learning to
code, getting a degree in accounting, picking up a trade, or simply
working hard. Her 58 year old life has been one of constantly
seeking the easy way out.
These two stories have two
drastically different endings.
My Vietnamese buddy will not only
have lived an enjoyable life, but will have enjoyed the company of
his wonderful wife and two nice kids. He’s nowhere near
retirement, but is kicking around retiring around 55. He may work
part-time at a golf course as something fun to do and get him out of
the house. And he is already at the stage of buying property to
build his dream-retirement home on. All in anticipation of the day
he retires on a more than ample 401k balance.
My not-Vietnamese buddy is not so
lucky. She will never retire. Will forever have to work. She will
invariably have to go on some kind of government assistance. And
though pretty at one time in her life, she is no more, almost
guaranteeing she will be lonely in her final days. And yes, true to
the stereotype, she has cats.
These
drastically different results can trace their origins and causes all
the way back to the beginning of their stories. Because while my
Vietnamese buddy chose Electrical Engineering as a career, my
not-Vietnamese buddy chose Early Childhood Education. And choosing
these opposite forks in the road that early in their lives determined
the drastically different trajectories their lives would take. But
the lesson here is not
that you should major in Electrical Engineering instead of Early
Childhood Development. It’s the irony of what they both originally
set out to achieve versus what ended up happening in the end. Not in
terms of their careers. But in terms of effort.
My Vietnamese buddy set out to put
forth the hard work and effort to make his life successful. Be it
having a good father, his Vietnamese culture, or just intellectual
honesty, he committed to doing what was necessary to succeed in life.
In short, he committed to a path that was full of toil, effort,
sacrifice, and work.
My not-Vietnamese buddy set out to
do the complete opposite. Though under the euphemistic lie of “doing
it for the children,” we all know she choose Early Childhood
Education because she was lazy. And though she knew she was never
going to make electrical engineer money, she was hoping to win that
Dream Lottery of life and get paid enough money to live for the least
amount of work expended. In short, she wanted an easy life.
But, if there was ever an example of
punishing brutal irony, this was it. Because both of them got the
complete opposite of what they set out to do.
My Vietnamese buddy thought he was
committing to a hard life of calculus, physics, labor, toil, and
headache-inducing thinking. Slaving away at an office, pouring over
diagrams and schematics. And my not-Vietnamese buddy thought she was
going to waltz through life with a laughably stupid degree and some
government funding. But the life my Vietnamese buddy actually
experienced was one of relative ease, smooth sailing, financial
stability, and peace. I greatly (though admirably) envied him
because he never worried once in his life about finding a job or
poverty. By the same token, I absolutely did not envy the
middle-aged woman at all because her life was one of constant
struggle. And not just struggle but mental and psychological strife.
Perpetually applying for jobs, getting kicked out of her home,
knowing she was going to have to work until she died, and being
delusional enough to blame it on an entire gender made me appreciate
the comparatively modest struggles I had in my career. And when the
accounting is all said and done, when you tally up who expended more
calories of energy in their lives just trying to survive, the
weathered, middle-aged woman easily spent twice the amount of energy
than my Vietnamese buddy.
And this is the moral of the story –
lazy people work twice as hard.
There
are only two ways in life. The Hard
Way and the Really
Hard Way. There is
no “easy way.” The “easy way” is just the Really Hard Way
disguised to look easy. And you can either admit now that you
either:
- Take your lumps up front, bite the bullet, and put your dues in now which will cost you less overall pain and energy in life,
or
- Do what most Millennials did and try to win the “Dream Lottery,” damning yourself to working twice, thrice, even four times as hard had you just studied a legit profession in the first place.
When you compare the two paths in
life, it’s just not comparable.
The calories of energy you will
spend choosing the Easy/Really Hard Way in life dwarf that of the
Hard Way. Constantly applying for jobs, getting advanced degrees,
volunteering in the hopes you find work, working extra hours, working
a second job, applying for food stamps, applying for Obamacare,
applying for section 8, finding daycare, hunting for safe and
affordable housing, waiting for the bus, walking to the bus, working
the night shift, and all the other taxing chores that come with
choosing the “Easy Way” in life are a massive caloric drain on
your life. And this says nothing of the tormenting mental, social,
and psychological costs of choosing the “Easy Way.” The lack of
stability, the lack of financial security, being cold and hungry,
stress on the family, the stress on yourself, and above all else, the
helplessness to do anything about it. All of that consumes an
inordinate amount of both physical and psychological energy while
ruining your ability to enjoy life at the same time. Had you just
grew a pair early on and committed to a legitimate profession as a
youth, you would have spared yourself an adulthood of hell.
But what this really boils down to
is a matter of intelligence. Are you smart enough to choose the Hard
Way which is the easiest, most logical, and most beneficial choice on
the table? Are you smart enough to know that you are not going to
“get lucky” and land a job with a Sociology degree? Or do you
lack the intellectual courage and strength to admit life is going to
be tough and it is best tackled with a hard-earned skill rather than
a liberal arts philosophy of entitlement?
So
do yourself a favor. Be lazy by not being lazy. Choose the hard way
in life and avoid the fate 85% of Millennials suffer today. You will
spend less energy over the course of your life working
and you won’t be a bankrupt, pissed-off cat lady living off of food
stamps when you’re old."
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Great stuff. It's important to remember that investment in an education is just that - an investment. If you make a big investment in something with high entry barriers when very young like your Vietnamese buddy then that investment pays not only higher dividends but pays them for much longer. The amortization schedule is way better, in accounting terms.
ReplyDeleteThis reminded me of a correlation I was contemplating.
ReplyDeleteHow charismatic your college professor is exponentially inversely proportional to the amount of money you will make with your degree.
Thumbs Up!
ReplyDeleteYup. That's why I'm going into data science. When I retire from the Army in a few more years, I'll have a degree and several years' experience as a DBA, and I'll never worry about having a job again.
ReplyDeleteWhen we dropped my daughter off at college, we got to meet her roommates. One was the daughter of rich parents in Long Island, who turned up her nose at us. She was majoring in one of the fluffy subjects and unless she worked for daddy when she got out, was going to be unemployable. She probably won't have a lot of student debt because daddy wrote checks. Roommate number two was crazy, and the emotional stress of studying fluffy subjects while worrying about inconsequential things caused her to melt down and wash out. Roommate number three was studying something along the lines of comparative underwater lesbian basket weaving. She graduated but her degree qualifies her for nothing of consequence.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter majored in business. As I understand it there are business degrees and there are business degrees. She took the hard courses. She worked hard for her grades. She now works for an upscale retail company, in a management role. Student debt is minimal as she worked her way through school.
She knew what she wanted, worked hard to get it, and because of that I see her having more in common with your engineering friend than the early childhood development major friend.
For her birthday this year I think I'm going to give her a copy of "Enjoy the Decline".
Your 58 year old female friend did not have the option to get a degree in engineering.
ReplyDeleteShe never would have made it.
Most people can't.
Many people start out saying they will major in engineering, then they switch to something easier they can finish.
I once told my daughter MJ, the quickest way to do something is slowly. She scoffed. She was eight. "The quickest way is fast!"
ReplyDeleteA couple weeks after this, she was asked to go collect the eggs. On her way zooming out the back door I said, "Stop. Get a bucket or bowl.", but she was already halfway out the door - "I GOTTIT!"
I watched her walk from the coop with a shirt full of eggs. We had a lot of laying hens and she had a dozen if not two. I sat back down at the table.
On her way in the door, she was having trouble managing the door AND the eggs. I heard an egg hit the floor, a gasp, then a rapid-fire and overlapping sound of eggs hitting the floor and breaking.
Raw egg is hard to clean up. She got paper towels and quietly spent the next fifteen minutes cleaning up the yolky mess. During all this I said nary a word.
On her way by me, I said, "Hey Peanut."
"Yes Daddy?"
"What should you have taken the time to get?"
"A basket."
"So... what is the quickest way to do something?"
*Sighhhh* "Slowly."
Life. It will teach you.
My grandmother had a knick-knack that said the following:
Delete"The hurrier I go, the behinder I get."
That advice has served me well over the years.