Neither here nor there, I would dream what went on behind those closed doors of those proto-90's McMansions, but 10 years later I would wonder no more for I would see it first hand.
A rank and file spoiling of the worlds most worthless children.
I luckily/unluckily knew a family that lived in one of West Bloomington's larger mansions and while on the outside it looked luxurious, rich, and problem-free, on the inside it was hell. The wife was cheating around on the husband. Their finances were always stretched to the limit. And I had never seen so much worthless "stuff" packed into one house. But the worst was the children. The husband was a pushover, neither disciplining his children nor standing up to his wife, and consequently suffered belligerent children, a back-talking son, and a wife that was just as prone to use the kids in a "King of Thrones" way against him, as she was him against them. The husband was certainly spineless, but I couldn't help but realize that if he didn't make $250,000 a year, then the economic realities of poverty would make it a lot harder for him to spoil them, and a lot easier to tell them "no." This would result in much better behaved children and ones I didn't feel like (honestly) punching square in their 8 and 10 year old faces.
Travel north and a little bit east to the gated community of North Oaks, and allow me to tell you a tale I've told some of my readers before. This was the story of the Asian Princess whose parents had a net worth of over $1 billion. After being set up by a friend, I thought she was doing me a favor on account this Asian Princess was super hot, cheerleading for the Timberwolves or the Vikings (I couldn't remember which). And while the sex was good, it was brief as she went full-on psycho because I didn't offer to buy her a soda when stopping for gas one time.
I kid you not. A full grown, then 23 year old "woman" threw a temper tantrum, crying and screaming along I-394 all the way to Hwy 280 where the spectacle ended with her threatening to commit suicide. Being a naive 24 year old at the time, I genuinely thought she had mental problems, when in reality she was just another spoiled rich bitch the American suburbs were ramping up production of at the time.
And then there is the election of Trump.
Though this may not seem related, or at least tangential, it shares the same common thread as the two examples above.
Trump got elected.
Trump won fair and square.
Trump is your president whether you like it or not.
And you have every right to vote him out in 4 years.
Yet none of this seemed to dawn or register with what I estimate to be a good 33% of the population.
The cumulative cry-baby, temper-tantrum shit show put on full display for the world to see by the left is on par with, perhaps even improving upon, the soda-deprived temper tantrum the Asian Princess threw and the back-talking brats of my long-ago friend in West Bloomington. Be it the riots of Berkeley destroying people's freedom of speech, to the Million Meg March, to the terabytes of pure stupidity and ignorance displayed daily on social media by millennials, it does not take a deep-thinking sociologist or political analyst to realize a third of the country desperately needs a disciplinarian father figure to metaphorically spank the ever living shit out of them. And while we can chalk these behaviors up to leftist indoctrination in the schools, or the lack of fathers, or the surplus of spineless fathers, I think there is a larger determining factor that explains this nation-wide phenomenon of spoiled brat behavior.
Wealth.
If there's one lesson I've learned from Asshole Consulting it's that people cannot learn unless they suffer, and suffer mightily.
Fuck "positive reinforcement."
Fuck "not keeping score."
And fuck encouragement.
Lessons are only learned, and learned most expeditiously, when there is immense pain, agony, and cost associated with it.
I can scream at the top of my lungs,
"Don't major in stupid shit!"
or
"That 24 year old girl with big tits and a 50 year old boyfriend is leading you on and in it for the money!"
or
"Don't buy that boat!"
And I can provide every bit of reason, logic, empirical data, and evidence as to why you shouldn't do these things. But people will still end up with
$150,000 in student loans for a Masters in Anthropology,
a broken heart and broken nose, and
the financial world of trouble that is known as a boat.
It is then, and ONLY THEN do they realize what I said was right. It's why I charge an egregious fee because in order for my clients to learn it needs to hurt. And it's worth every penny because $100 of preventative pain is better than the $150,000 and decades worth of damage.
But no matter how vital pain is to advance and progress in life, there is one thing that acts as a shield against it, and therefore blunts and counters any real life learning that is so vital and desperately needed to be successful in life.
Money. More specifically, wealth.
Take for example two seemingly unrelated groups of people.
SPWL suburbanite brat princesses and welfare ghetto trash.
While they may have very little in common, what they do have in common is that they are indeed shielded from the full costs and consequences of their mistakes.
Daddy's little Suburbanite Princess can wreck a car, major in stupid shit, flail about in life well into her 30's and never suffer an ounce of pain, starvation, or reprecussions because daddy will simply bail her out.
You typical ghetto/trailer/barrio trash may not have the benefactor of a rich SWPL suburbanite daddy warbucks, but they have Daddy Government bailing them out just the same.
Didn't want to study hard in school? Got pregnant at 15? Got in trouble with the law? Started dealing drugs? Never majored in a stupid subject because you never made it to college or trade school? Didn't save up anything for retirement? Had more kids than you could afford?
No worries what so ever! The
And the consequences are the same - worthless, parasitic people who live off of others and are a drain on society.
In my 40 years of life on this planet, watching everything from spoiled rich kids at parochial school, to spoiled brats at "The Carslon School of Management," to dating scores of suburbanite princesses, to my beloved governor Mark Dayton, to Presidents Bush and Obama, to watching both the bankers and their clients getting bailed out by the government, I am COMPLETELY and thoroughly convinced that money/wealth is absolutely 100% toxic to human beings. At best it turns them into worthless layabouts like the Kardashians, and at worst it turns them into evil, vile, destructive people like Hillary Clinton and Nancy Pelosi.
This puts society, not to mention my capitalist-loving self, at a quandary. Money and wealth is what improves and enhances our standards of living. It's what humanity and every person has been working towards and desires. Infinite wealth is what economists (in theory) dream to be the perfect utopia. But if money is so destructive to the human mind and the rest of humanity, how can this be reconciled.
Simple. The one thing that inoculates humans against the toxic effects of wealth.
Earned wealth.
You have to work for it.
I've often debated starting a "Spoiled Brat Trust Fund Baby Camp" wherein I'd put the world's most worthless spoiled brats through a painful bootcamp. It wouldn't involve push ups or 10 mile runs, but simply cutting them off from their parents' finances and dropping them off at the bus station with $1,000 and saying "good luck!" Every great once in a while a rare rich kid does this (I recall an heir to a 1920's fortune running away from his family so he could live among the normal people - his name escapes me now), but for the most part pampered children lack this level of maturity, discipline, rigor, and introspection. Regardless, the point is the only way people can learn the value of a dollar and never be corrupted by money and wealth is by staring starvation and poverty right in the face, perhaps even wrestling with it for their very own life, so they know PRECISELY what it takes for an individual to support him/herself and just what a precious commodity money truly is. It also humbles them so they know what the average person on the street endures and suffers, resulting in a communal respect for your fellow man, especially those not born into the
It is doubtful that the rich, even those who borrow their wealth to spoil their children (which are many more in number than you may realize), will have the perspective, insight, and true consideration for their follow man and society to raise their children unspoiled, unpampered, and bounced around a little bit in the tough world of reality. Often times this is due to the originator of the wealth loving their children to the point they do not want them to suffer. Other times it's simple hubris and ego about "their family" being better and more important than others. Regardless, the result is the same - worthless people who lack the ability to love their fellow man, have an entitlement problem, lack the ability for altruism and empathy, and frankly are the cause of the majority of problems and corruption we witness in the world today.
If rich people really want to help the world, and if leftists really want to help the poor, and if you want to stop raising the worthless lot of college protestors living off of the government-student-loan-dime, stop spoiling your children.
Be it a trust funder
A 5th generation welfare bum
A 6th generation single mom
Or daddy's precious suburbanite princess and prince majoring in Social Justice Warrior studies on his 3rd-mortgage-dime
knock it the fuck off with blank checks and unlimited government bailouts and force them to become real world, full-agency, self-supporting adults.
Not only will they thank you in the long run, but society won't collapse either.
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13 comments:
I used to read your blog all the time but stopped around the time you transitioned to video. I still drop in due to VivaLaManosphere; this is some of the best writing I have seen in long time. I believe in capitalism, but now money becomes the means to an end and is hoarded rather than invested in the greatest asset of all - people. On an unrelated note I also believe in socialism - things like roads, libraries, shit even churches are socialism... and things that should be socialism: internet, electricity, clean water, reforestation, maintaining wildlife and endangered species, etc. I believe that while Western Europe is struggling now for being libtard and generous with Rapefugees, in 50 or 100 years they will have a much better version of Society with more Democratic Socialism than we have here in the "Capitalistic" West. Scandanavian Europe already has a much better standard of living accross the board and I personally dont buy the whole "lack of innovation in every country but the U.S." train of thought that is so prevalent here in the U.S.
At the root of this phenomenon lies r/K theory. Anonymous conservative tackles this concept in a bit wider scope if others are interested in expanding their understanding of Aaron's salient point
New money smells funny. Spoiled royals do grow up at some point.
I think this is what makes Trump and his kids so impressive. Unless they are extremely good at keeping out of the spotlight or hiding their true selves they do not appear to be spoiled brats like 90% of other trust fund babies their age (Hilton's and Kardashians for example) and seem to genuinely understand the value of their wealth. That shows me that Donald is a solid father and very good at keeping his children disciplined and on the straight and arrow.
Another angle to this is the laments of big jackpot lottery winners.
https://mic.com/articles/132046/here-s-5-people-whose-lives-were-ruined-after-they-won-the-lottery
Cappy--I grew up in an effed-up semi-spoiled family in a wealthy area of WI, dated a girl from North Oaks after college, and had my head so far up my ass I could lick my gall bladder...until at the age of 32 I met a woman who had the exact opposite upbringing. Worked her ASS off her whole life, paid every dime of college, taught herself programming and went on to become president of a company in Silicon Valley. Nothing handed to her. She dealt with a lot of nasty shit. She changed me, changed my whole life. We left the Bay Area. Now married 15+ years, 2 kids, one is special needs. My family drives her (and me) nuts. You are so fucking right it's beyond description. Like everything, I've met some exceptions...but not many. Lots of other examples of that shit I could share with you but if I was you I wouldn't want to hear it. Hell, I don't want to type it. Thanks for another outstanding post.
*Cheers* Cappy
I went from comfy upper-middle class as a child to NO parents my sophomore year of highschool. Me and my brothers had to hustle. Those lessons have stayed with me for the ensuing 33 years.
You're on point man! I mean look at all of the politicians that had a silver spoon in their mouth growing up. It's no wonder why all of the western nations are fucked up like they are.
Cappy - Thank You for an amazing post. I grew up in a dirt poor, alcoholic family and lived in a trailer park that lacked a functioning sewage system until the State stepped in. The drinking, constant arguing, fistfights, crashed cars and general upset did suck, however, I did learn a handful of ironclad, carved on a stone tablet rules from my parents when they were sober and present:
White Trash Trailer Park Rules
Nobody owes you anything. You have to convince someone to hire you and work your ass off every day to keep that job.
People who accept government handouts are trash and lower than we are.
Never go into debt for anything but a house.
Pay the bills before you buy food.
Get an education! My Dad never finished high school because he had to work. I got an engineering degree.
I used to get pissed off about my childhood. Now, I realize it was better than most. My parents died long ago. I try to thank them for the good advice and forgive them for the alcoholism. Not the easiest task sometimes.
I don't agree that most people who come from wealth are incompetent, entitled simpletons who throw away their advantages. As a former bank trust officer I saw the whole spectrum. I was the legal and administrative officer for $125 million, mostly trusts under will and living trusts. True, I had one young woman who snorted $500K up her nose and was angling to get her hands on another $250K that was to be distributed to her under a trust. I had a few other bad apples, but most families that held their wealth for generations made good use of it. They enjoyed their money but were generous with it in community, cultural, religious, and educational causes. Be careful what you argue for - the Left loves confiscatory death and gift taxes, and makes many of the same arguments I see here. Because, you know, the social justice types know better what to do with it than those whose enterprise, thrift, inventiveness and acumen created or conserved the wealth to begin with.
like the bootcamp idea... there was even a program on it once (probably heavily scripted though) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/You're_Cut_Off!
If you were a book reading kind of guy I would recommend that you read Rudyard Kiplings novel "Captains Courageous" https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Captains_Courageous.
It's about a spoiled prince who is rescued at sea by a fishing schooner and made to work his way home. In the process he goes from being a spoilt brat to a productive human.
You should partake of literature, because everything you have written about has pretty much been covered in the great works of literature. Reading great books is a way to learn from other peoples experiences, instead of having to experience everything yourself.
Great post as always Cappy
Two comments. I'm fine with a 24 yr old with big tits being after my money. I pay $1 per fondle.
Rich kids will still come out ok if you have a traditional wife who is part of the same team
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