Whilst peering over the shoulder of my male friend, perusing the Match or the POF, he'll occasionally point out how common it is for women to list in their description,
"My child comes first"
and then laugh as he moves onto the next, hopefully, childless profile.
But this brings up an important issue about hierarchy and the importance of different people in people's lives.
First, gentlemen, before you wed, you will (not "need" or "should") you WILL make it very clear you will be the number one thing in her life and she will be the number one thing in yours. The kids will come second because without two parents, they will suffer. This doesn't mean you put your kids beneath you, as it is akin to having a pilot and a co-pilot on the plane. Those are the two most important people. The fliers, very important, but they would all die if in an emergency the emphasis was put on them. If you fail to convey this concept then you WILL be relegated below the children and relegated further to the position of ATM. You are not an ATM, you are the father of the household. Don't just act like it, insist on it.
Second, if you fail to do that, you will perpetually be knocked down the hierarchy as various "important" things enter your wife's life. This will result in the following hierarchy and placement as time goes on.
2nd place behind the wife
3rd place behind the wife and any kids
4th place behind the wife, any kids, and if she's religious, Jesus (or God or Allah, etc.)
5th place behind the wife, any kids, any god, and her career
6th place behind the wife, any kids, any god, her career, her affair
7th place behind the wife, any kids, any god, her career, her affair, her family
I could go on, but if there are enough "false gods" you could in theory be bumped down to 117th place.
Regardless, it is important to assess these things about a woman before considering marriage. Say, for example, she's already divorced with kids, has a career and is a really religious girl.
Well lil' buckaroo, you're default placed at 5th.
She's got no kids, but constantly listens to her mother's advice over yours, and is insistent on getting her "Masters in Feelings," you're default ranked 4th.
Again, at any time you men can put your foot down and say, "No, I am the head of the house hold, and I will be in first place." It really is that simple.