The Alcoholism, Anger, Temper Excuse

The Manosphere, if you could categorize it, falls ever so generally into three categories;

Pick up community
Men's rights
Theory/Political Discussion

All of which is fine and dandy, but if and when I write about Manosphere issues, it is usually more for the "Boyosphere" than anything else.  The reason why is that while men (our age and older) have used the Manosphere to compare notes across the internet to confirm that indeed something insidious, malicious and evil HAS BEEN perpetrated against us, understand that does nothing to address the poor boys of the FUTURE that WILL BE sent through the same meat grinder.

And therefore a plurality of my posts tend to be targeted more towards young boys so that there is at least something positive that comes out of this psy-ops war.

Today, though, I want to address something that no doubt you, me, and every other guy out there has gone through (thereby guaranteeing young boys coming onto the line are going to suffer the same) and that is the "Alcoholism, Anger, Temper Excuse" or "AATE."

Like many things, it took retrospect and hindsight to realize what was going on, but when you put the pieces of the puzzle together you realized a lot of women, if they don't want to go out with you any more, won't have the spine or gall to come outright and say,

"I don't think we should date anymore, I'm breaking up with you."

Instead they do something much worse.  They claim you have a problem or have somehow changed, and use that as the excuse to have a time out or fully break up.

For example, all three of the excuses - temper, anger and alcoholism - have been used on me by multiple girls in the past.

One girl claimed I had anger issues and she couldn't deal with such a "volatile" person.  Active?  Yes.  Bombastic?  Yes.  But was I "angry?"  No.  Or at least I didn't think so.  Of course I was young and stupid, so I thought, "Wow, maybe I'm angry and I just don't know it.  Maybe I'm unaware of how I'm scaring people or insulting them."  All in vain, misleading and quite damaging because I was trying to solve a problem I didn't have.

Another claimed I had a "temper."  I didn't have a temper.  I was having a good ole time dating this gal.  If anything I was relaxed and drunk half the time and never blew up once.  It was so obvious I didn't have a temper, even I knew this was some kind of ruse or BS.  When she broke up with me, it wasn't a surprise.

And finally, the "alcoholism" excuse.  Ah yes, the favorite among naive goodie two shoes girls who think if you have two drinks in a night you are a full blown, raging alcoholic, hell bent on driving drunk and training vigorously to beat your future wife.  Many-a-Christian girls used this one when they tried vainly to convince you to "find Jesus," but upon not being able to provide any conclusive, empirical proof Christianity is THE ONE TRUE religion, out they whip the "you're a raging alcoholic" excuse.  Never mind if you are drunk you're more relaxed and happy and the farthest away you'd ever be from "raging."  Nope, she knew this one friend of her's cousin whose uncle dated this woman whose sister had a father who got drunk and treated her mom mean one time back in the 70's.  Translation - you are 100% guaranteed to beat me if we ever get married AND the children too!

Naturally none of these excuses stand up to logic, but that's the whole point.  They're excuses, not reality.  The damage AATE causes young boys is not that a girl wants to break up with you and thus resorts to BS excuses to rationalize it, but it misleads you into thinking you have problems you really don't have and thus you try to change those problems.  It's just as bad as having problems you DO have and you DON'T try to change them.  Neither are based in reality and only make you a worse person.

So boys, look out for the AATE excuses.  And when delivered, just accept the girl doesn't want to date you, move on, and be happy someone so duplicitous is taking herself out of your life.