An interesting observation.
What if the vast majority of your experiences with the opposite sex when trying to court them is largely one of you
them to go out with you?
That you always operate from the premise the girl does not on her own, willingly want to go out with you? That such a fuss, fight, and resistance is put up, that you accept as premise women are incapable of liking men on their own.
Well, two very sad and tragic things will happen.
1. You'll believe that it's not possible for girls to just "like you." That they'll always need to be convinced or tricked otherwise. And
2. You'll fail to recognize the few girls that actually do genuinely like you, misdiagnose them, respond erroneously to them, and they will likely be "the one that got away."
Regardless, this thought is more thoroughly thought out in my latest piece at ROK. (Also, I recommend reading the comments. No limit to the number of virgins doing their academian, theoritician Monday Morning Quarterbacking tough talk.)