Tuesday, October 03, 2017

No, You Will Not Build Her Her Dream Home

As I age and see more of not only my generation of men, but other generations travel down the path of life, I have realized that 'being nice' and trying to provide everything for your wife leads to her being spoiled and entitled.  People (men included) if spoiled rotten will end up becoming spoiled rotten and so you need to ensure that everybody in the relationship faces, suffers, and endures what is required to support oneself.  Any shielding or subsidizing people from these hardships, even if out of love, results in a slow but inevitable entitlement that is hard to unlodge and unseat once cemented into their psyche.  This leads to, at minimum, strife and stress within the relationship, but more often divorce and an ending of the relationship. 

But there is another drawback to "happy wife, happy life."  And that is the financial ruination you will likely suffer if you try to provide for two people on the efforts of only one.  I suggest reading this story before you boys start thinking about "buying your dream home" and before you ladies start thinking of forcing your husband to do the same.

9 comments:

David Reynolds said...

This story is really depressing. It gives the MGTOWs a solid argument NOT to ever get married. The woman that wanted that multi-million pound home obviously didn't love him. A loving wife wouldn't put that kind of added stress on her husband right after getting out of the hospital from a life threatening illness.

Why would this couple live in an extravagant home? Especially when it is only just the two of them. If there are no kids left at home, if there ever were at all, then they shouldn't need anything more than a 2-3 bedroom/1.5 bathroom house. All houses perform the same function. They have a roof and four walls. They keep one warm and dry from the elements outside.

I can't fathom the mortgage payments on such a place. That and the additional life insurance that is needed to cover the balance when he does drop dead from the stress of the added bills he has taken on. If I were this husband, I would worry if the wife is going to have me murdered. It is a shame that she values a crummy house over her husband. As they say in the hood, bitches aren't loyal.

Tucanae Services said...

Not that I wish to derail the theme or the example, but lets inject some reality. The dude just had a blood clot to the brain. To cut the drama short, you just are not the same after it is all said and done. You go from being a vibrant personality to a near couch potato. Bill Clinton is a good example. After his quad bypass he looks like death warmed over.

Bottom line, they guy knows he's a goner and medically probably lacks the energy to 'fight back'. Its all on the bitch.

tkdkerry said...

"Happy wife, happy life."

Almost universally presented as a positive, selfless approach to maintaining a solid marital relationship, but in actuality a capitulation to the fact that you better do whatever mama wants or she'll be a shrieking harridan who makes your life miserable from dawn to dusk to dawn.

Better to not be married.

Bike Bubba said...

I am grateful to be married to a woman who, when we were courting, said she'd be fine living in a shack, if only it were with me. If only we were subscribing to Martha Stewart Living and Real Simple and the like so we would know how to spend the money I've not been able to earn yet! Then we'd also be scraping to get all that bling....

Jim Scrummy said...

Nope. Already told the Mrs., this ain't happening. I am looking to downsize and move in about 10 years, or sooner. If people want McMansions, have fun with your cooling and heating bills, along with regular maintenance.

Faithless Cynic said...

My favorite female whine from a dream house TV show is " I NEED GRANITE " If you have a grain of common sense you can make a nice, cheap, easily renewable counter out of 3/4 inch plywood coated with poly. If you ever wear it out or just want a fresh appearance, cut out another one.

My house is well worn and Robyn Leach would cringe upon seeing it. To those people I say " It is paid for " Peasants know to secure food, water, and shelter first.

Anonymous said...

"An amount which he would have to work to pay off, not his wife. And for the rest of his life."

In my opinion this is the important part of this article. Stuff has to be figured out in how much time do I have to spend at work. We all have to go to work to pay for certain things. For me this year it was 7 months. This was an expensive year because I took last year off. This year I had to buy a tractor and replaced my 20 year old truck with an 8 year old one.

Next year I'll work for 5 months. That will be enough to meet my bills and put some away for retirement. Working for years to pay off a wifes "dream home"? Nope. Waste of time. You only get one chance to enjoy life.

I'm not a fan of country music but a line in a song I heard once said that no one ever said when they were dying I wish I spent more time at work. Very true.

These semi drunken rambling thoughts brought to you by someone who just had 5 months off and am heading back to work in a week.

Anonymous said...

"Happy wife, happy life."

Men are not responsile for their wives happiness. The wives are. (..pursuit of happiness and all that). I realize what women WANT and what they need (or rightly deserve) are beyound their grasp of recognizing, but let no man chain himself to keeping such a whimiscal idea that keepiing her happy is his obligation. It never was.

Regarding the linked article: I read last summer about a young married man committing suicide in our community. I knew one of the relatives of the wife and apparently she was a real handful. She married the guy a few years ago, quit her job, got fat and demanded he buy her the house she wanted despite his meager earnings and his protestations. I later spoke with a cop I've known for years who was at the scene. The young man was staggering drunk in a field with a pistol in his hand and after 2 hours of the Police trying to talk him out of it, he raised the pistol and shot himself in the head.

Stay frosty gentlemen.

Wandering man said...

Well alot of men are opting out of marriage anyway so...