Tuesday, September 08, 2009

An Older Post

In my boredom inspired surfing of the internet, I came across this one.

Dated, but good nonetheless especially for young female millennials who are about to enter college. And understand it's not me saying it, it's a woman, so don't yell at me.

She has moved to Townhall, I guess that is her older blog account.


Anonymous said...

She has that spot on.

I have to admit my experiences working with women have been similar. Some can be very edgy, bitchy and territorial, yet at the same time are indirect.

When men disagree, they usually quickly fight it out and five minutes later all is normal between the two parties. Not so with women, they in general tend to nurse a grudge and find other ways to get even. I never understood how much information, rumor, gossip, and behind the back conversations goes on in the office until our lunch gathering (I'm the only guy in it) started.

I'm a guy, but am considered "one of the girls" by my teammates. Our lunchtime women-centric discussions don't embarrass me, although I get kidded about it a lot.

Anonymous said...

I agree with Anonymous, Ms. Grimes has that spot on.

I say this as a 35-year old woman who worked as engineer in cubicle farm jobs from 1998 until 2007.

Even in high school, most of the people who tried to dissuade me from pursuing an engineering degree were other women. Because I should be a teacher or get an English degree. The guys in my class were supportive of me being an engineer.

Same thing in college -- the guys I had classes with and did homework with had no problem with me being in the major I was in, or with me being studious and not a party animal. But the girls I met were constantly on my ass about why didn't I date, why didn't I wear makeup, snippy comments about me having a harem of guys (I'm good at math and am glad to help other people with their homework -- so yeah, in a math-intensive male-dominated major, I had a lot of guy friends; shocking, I know), and you could take 90% of the comments I got from the girls hassling me in high school and college and it all came down to "you don't conform, AND YOU SHOULD!!"

Once I got out of college and into the working world, things got a little bit better, but now I come to what was the most interesting part of the article for me: Ms. Grimes' age. Another female engineering friend and I had both sat down one evening and had realized the women we had the biggest problems with in the workplace were about 10-15 years older than us. Since my friend and I were born in 1973 and 1974 respectively, that puts our problem co-workers birth years around the early to mid 1960s.

I had wondered if part of it was a generational thing, and from Ms. Grimes' article it seems like it is.

"Sadly, no one is addressing how feminists abuse their power, particularly in the workplace by holding employers and coworkers hostage out of fear of a harassment lawsuit. These angry women abuse coworkers verbally and mentally, extort their bosses and leave a wake of destruction in the workplace no one can repair. And they know it."

One of the companies I worked for had a female CEO for a while -- and while she wasn't outright abusive, she often pitted departments against each other, to the detriment of the company. And no one dared say a word, for the reasons stated above. Although I'm not sure if that CEO knew how much conflict she was causing or if that was the state of things she encountered everywhere she went so she figured the world must naturally be that way.

Anyway, excellent article and thank you for posting the link to it.