Where's the Feminist Self-Improvement Counterpart?

Victor Pride caught a lot of flak from feminists a while ago for his 30 Days of Discipline, some of the rules of which were unconventional.  But criticize his techniques as you might, the fact still remained that Victor wrote a manual with the intention of self-improvement.

A couple months back I entered a "Forced Discipline and Regimen Month."  The goal of this was also self improvement.  To force myself to do this I put up before and after pictures.  I received some guff about "cheese cake photos" and my blinding pasteyness, but again, the overall intention was self-improvement.

And while the two examples above focus on physic fitness and health, if you step back and cast a wider net, you'll realize The Manosphere, as well as various economics blogs, follow a similar parallel.  Namely one of self-improvement.  Men trying to improve their chances with women.  Men trying to advance their careers and financial success.  Men (and women) trying to start businesses. And men and women trying to aim for happier, better lives.  They are constantly asking "what can I do to improve myself."

I have a simple question.

Where is the feminist equivalent of this?

If I were to generalize the two spheres (feminism and Manosphere) it seems very obvious The Manosphere is focused on self-improvement and improving one's self while the feminist sphere is one of whining, complaining, bitching, victimization and entitlement.  I say this not out of spite or agenda, but because it's true.

The Manosphere, for the most part, is an entity of advancement, progress and self-improvement while feminism is one of complaint, victimhood, and class warfare.

If you don't believe me, just take some sample "themes" from both spheres.

Health

How many feminist blogs/sites write constantly about physical fitness and health?  And I'm not talking about "how to eat green/organic" (the purpose of such articles being ulteriorly political, not health), but "how can I lose weight?" or "how can I be sexier to the opposite sex?"

None or very little.

Contrast that to The Manosphere where nearly I'd say 1/4th the articles revolve around health.  Heck, we even have entire blogs in our ranks dedicated solely to men's health.  And how candid and blunt are they compared to their feminist counterparts?  We are harsh and merciless upon our readers.  Telling, nay, yelling at our younger readers to lose weight, work out, eat their veggies and your personal preferences be damned.  You're going to do it son!  Whether you like it or not!

And why do we do it?

For women!  Not even ourselves! (though it is duly noted that this is so we can GET women, but the point is we at least change our behavior to match what women want).

Education/Labor Market

Another theme that shows where The Manosphere looks to self-improvement while feminists bitch is education.  Manosphere Men always ask whether or not the investment in college or training is worth it.  Underpinning this is not just the cost of education, but a long term financial strategy, the purpose of which is to achieve economic independence, self-reliance and freedom.  Thus, we pursue fields of study that have a positive and adequate ROI.  We also encourage younger men (and women) to pursue such fields based on our experiences.  We do not let the difficulty of math or science stand in our way, but commit ourselves to it instead knowing surmounting this challenge will pay much better dividends in the future.

The feminist sphere on the other hand practically demands the right to attend college and have a job as an entitlement.  An entitlement of which more often than not proves to be a worthless hobby rather than the first step in a well-thought out, long term, SELF SUSTAINING financial strategy.  Then, when the economic realities of the labor market come bearing down on them, they NEVER ask what they can do differently to close the wage gap, but rather bitch, whine, complain and demand government intervention to undo what reality and their stupid decisions have done.

Family/Spouse

A huge percentage of The Manosphere is dedicated on how to be a better father, husband, lover and sex machine.  Yes, again, admittedly for our own desires, but I've never heard a feminist fret over "whether or not she could provide for her family."  Most men, many of which, did not have the luxury of present or real fathers are now starting to fully understand the damage a lack of a dad has on children and thus are recommitted to be good husbands and good fathers.  Their own suffering and experiences make them quite selfless as they thoroughly, seriously and completely think about their children and family, current or to be.

Feminists?  Are you kidding me?  They're begging to get artificially inseminated and have the federal government supplant the husband and father role, with absolutely no regard to the children they intend to abuse and extract financial governmental resources and societal attention from cough...*raise*.  The fact so many feminists view fathers as unnecessary to the proper upbringing of a child shows they only view the child as an asset to own, a pet to have, ultimately proving it's all about them.

Businesses

The Manosphere has a significant percentage of its text dedicated towards setting up a business and doing something significant with your life.  Creating a company, employing people, making a better product, innovating a new creation to advance society.

What is the feminist sphere's answer?

Taxing said businesses to fund some non-profit charity that never solves the problem but manages to pay its "directors" a handsome sum?

Some worthless NGO that only employs equally worthless liberal arts majors to protest for some productionless leftist cause or another?

Even MORE bitching and whining about the performance gap between men and women?

Again, The Manosphere is focusing on advancing society where the feminist sphere is primarily focused on parasiting off of it.

Reality

Finally, reality.

Notice how the Manosphere takes a "what is reality" approach first, abides by that reality and then figures out how IT can change to abide and profit from that reality?  You know kind of a realistic, mature adult approach to life?

Well the feminism sphere does the complete opposite.

So lazy and ego-centric is the "feminism sphere," it not only ignores reality, but goes to desperate lengths to CRIMINALIZE and CHANGE reality.  AND change it to its own selfish and LAZY desires.  "Fat Acceptance" being the perfect example.

So selfish and lazy (and veritably insane) is the feminist sphere they ACTUALLY THINK THEY CAN CHANGE MALE SEXUALITY TO THE POINT WE'D LIKE FAT CHICKS.  They actually think they can shame men into finding fat and ugly chicks attractive.  They think they can, via political arms and the government, get men to "accept fat" (not to mention slave away paying taxes for the government to surrogate their roles in society).

But the key thing is LAZY.  Don't for a second think they don't full well know what the reality is.  They KNOW what men what.  It is the fact that to meet that goal would require such effort and challenge (working out, staying sexy, being GENUINELY educated and intelligent) they are dissuaded from such a life.  For such a life requires more effort and rigor than being a women's studies professor, a welfare recipient, a CSR/HR manager, AND requires you consider the desires of others.  In short it requires you to be self supporting, and above all else selfless.

And that is a trait no feminist has.

"But They Were Such Good Boys"

Here's why you have terrorism:

The Old Can Fight Us or Work With Us

In my latest podcast I mentioned this - how elder people in general do NOT help younger people as you would think they would.

Matter of fact, I've found older people to not only NOT want to help younger people, but obstruct their progress AND take advantage of them.  This ranges from obvious things such as the entire education industry (where older people vampirically feed off of younger people) to business "partners" screwing over their younger partners to bosses refusing to do any grooming, training, or mentoring. 

Again, if you step back and ask yourself,

"Have any of my elders really helped guide, lead, mentor and help me in my endeavors?"

The answer is not only "no" but also "they have been antagonistic, obstructionist, even against us."

Understand I don't say this as a younger entitled "woe is me, every one is against me," but this HAS been my observation.  Contrary to what you would think elders in a society would do (help the younger generations to become successful) I've found they are more against younger people, at minimum indifferent, and at worst taking-advantage of.

Thus when a reader sent me this article, two things stuck out.

1.  The elders in this young man's profession had not interest, nor time to guide him or help him in his research.

2.  His elders were also WRONG indicating they were manipulating the data for political gain at the expense of future generations. 

The lesson to pull from this for younger people is to realize just how alone you are.  Not in a social sense, but in a life-leading and guiding sense.  NOBODY is here to help you.  Nobody is here to lead you.  Matter of fact, most people are here to take advantage of you.  And the only way out of this mess is going to be through your own self-teaching, self-guidance, logic, and self-upbringing.

Yes, it would have been nice to have elders in society guide and lead you.

Yes, it would have been nice to have your elders be good stewards of the country, and groom you to one day take over and continue its progress, advancement and attainment of excellence.

Yes, these things would have been nice.

But unfortunately you are faced with a leaderless society forcing that role upon your unprepared self.

For the first time in US history the phrase:

"Don't trust anybody over 30 man!"

actually has merit.

Wise and Cheap

Ed, our sponsor over at Ranger Self Defense sent me two links.

I am plugging these because they are something I think everybody can use and should use.  Diversion safes.

You should at least have SOME of your investments in physical form such as gold, jewelry, guns, bullets, etc.  Not a TON, but at least some in case the government ohhhh...I don't know, confiscates your bank account a la Cyprus?

Anyway, he has safes and

stash cans.  Literally, they're cans.  They're actually pretty cool, you'll at minimum get a kick out of looking at them.

Remember, mention "Cappy" or "Captain" and you get a 10% discount off of your purchase!

A Call for Everybody's HR Stories!

Greetings all!

I need everybody to send me their HR stories!

I'll explain why later, but it is for my next writing project.  They can be as long as you want.  GOOD STORIES.  STORIES WITH DETAIL.

Just post them below and forward this to anyone you know with a good HR story!

AND ALSO KNOW I WILL BE USING THEM IN MY NEXT PROJECT AND YOU ARE GIVING ME THE RIGHT TO USE IT.

A Mean, Old Coin Dealer...

and other antics in this latest episode of "The Clarey Podcast."

The Prevalence of "Self Harm"

What I found interesting in this is how "self harm" was so highly ranked as the #1 or #2 cause for injury in young females.  What I also found interesting is how bad men are presumed to be for women in society, even when it's not true.

Oh well.  Just another reason to sit and watch society burn and not care, maybe even laugh at it a bit.

Probably a White Guy

And that's the truth.  This is probably a white guy.

Now all leftists can go pound sand accusing me and the likes of suspecting a muslim in the Boston bombing.

Update - I was right!  Let's see if I can go 2 for 2! 

UPDATE UPDATE!!!  NEW EXPLOSION!!!  I predict it was a chemical or faulting mechanics.  This is because of course I am a chemicalist and a faulty-mechanic-phobe and am bigoted against both groups.   I know my jumping to conclusions is PROOF of my hatred for chemicals and faulty mechanics, but that is because my white privilege forces me to assume it was chemicals and/or faulty mechanics.  

"But Math is Tough!"

For the Patron Saint's Name of Frick.

Honest to god.  I know the ladies of the Capposphere are real women who are equals.  They prove their mettle everyday.  AND they are intellectually honest.  They don't go rushing to the defense of a woman simply because she's a woman and then worry about whether that woman is right or wrong later.  They hold all people to the same standard and are just as judgemental against the women as they are the men.  But for the rest of the women out there who clamor for equal treatment, but then want special treatment when the going gets tough, shut up.  You're a bunch of hypocrites.

Teach a finite, precise study like math or physics differently so women can catch up???

No, how about you do what men do and that is man up, burn the midnight oil and quit whining.  Then you'll be equals.

Cripes.

Eye Candy and Underpants Gnomes

The Underpants Gnomes, if you don't know them is well...here look for yourself:



Obvious it doesn't make sense, which is why South Park is the funniest cartoon ever.

However, something very similar to the UNderpants Gnomes' profit strategy occurs with men.  Specifically, eye candy.  Why do hot attractive women trigger men to spend money?  Ergo, with the help of a kind reader we will test the Eye Candy/Underpants Gnomes profit strategy.

Stage 1 - Desire money to purchase new high quality microphone for podcast

Stage 2 -

Stage 3 - Profit off of increased sales to men of Enjoy the Decline and Amazon sales.

I am, however, reliably informed that if young Amy's pics do help with sales she is not necessarily against providing new ones.

It's Not Easy Being "Mean"

It is now pretty universally understood that the single worst thing you can do to torpedo your chances with the ladies is...

be a nice guy.

If there is progress to be pointed to in The Manosphere, that is it.  We have pretty much made it basic, introductory knowledge to all men of all ages that you do NOT be the nice guy.

But what is not so easy is doing the opposite.  Being a "jerk" or being an "asshole" to succeed with the ladies and let me explain why.

Chances are you really ARE a nice guy.

Understand nobody sets out and says, "I'm going to be a jerk" or "I'm going to be a mean guy!"  Most guys want to be nice people because it is being nice that gets you quality friends, keeps your enemies to a minimum, and increases your standard of living.  In every social, psychological, political, familial and business circle it pays to be nice.  Unfortunately, however, in this one circle (western civilization romantic) you have to change your game, change your personality and do the opposite.  And it is difficult to do when your core being, your true personality is a nice one.

I've seen this not just in my own exploits, but recently hanging out with a buddy of mine.  Even at the age of 42 he still catches himself unconsciously defaulting to "nice guy mode."  He has to constantly keep his guard up, at least in the initial stages of courting a girl.  And when it comes time to actually treating a girl poorly he's rued on multiple occasions,

"Geez, I just can't do it.  It's not in my nature.  I just don't like treating girls poorly."

Unfortunately (or fortunately) he realizes that it's the only option he has if he wants any measure of success, and thus he fakes it through anyway.

Regardless, the point of this post is one of morality versus that of practicality.  I understand it isn't fun being mean.  I understand it goes against your nature to not call a girl back and play stupid games.  I understand you don't want to hurt people's feelings.  I get that, we've all been there.  But unfortunatley the rules of the game are such that you HAVE to be a jerk.  You have to be aloof.  You have to be an ass.  This of course does not eliminate that "twinge" of guilt or regret as you purposely cancel on your date 2 hours before its start, but the fact these ARE the rules and women respond to it moot any moral qualms you might have.

You need to buy something today.  Might as well buy it here on Amazon.

When the Prom Queen Falls

I returned to Milwaukee about two weeks ago.  I was visiting friends and family because I had to drop off my girlfriend in the middle of Wisconsin and it was convenient to continue on to the east side of the state.  There was my old baby sitter, my dad, my best friend and my cousins, but in terms of real worth to my life and care, nothing else.

After meeting with my cousins, my friend, and a fan of Cappy Cap, at a cigar lounge on the west side, the only thing I had left to do was kill time, maybe revisit some old haunts, visit my dad and attend a "charity" event where a handful of old school mates would be.  There was nothing, and I mean, nothing left in Milwaukee for me.  So inbetween visiting my dad and going salsa dancing with my best friend, I was killing time, which landed me at a bar all of 200 yards from my old middle school.

At this bar was a "fund raiser."  It was for kids with Asbergers syndrome.  Everybody was very friendly and a nice girl who was a friend of mine back in the day was kind enough to invite me to it, so I showed.  But when I showed, it was sad.  Not sad because anybody was mean or unpolite, but because it showed we were 200 yards from my former middle school.  I couldn't remember names, but I remembered faces.  They were older now, decrepit, certainly not as handsome or cute as they used to be, but the ultimately sad thing was, was that they were still 200 yards away from the middle school.  They hadn't left.  They never left.  They were still living in this wretched shithole of trailer trash Milwaukee.  They were dating the same people and (after conversation) I realized they had bred and inbred resulting in children from multiple fathers/mothers, lines of which you could connect on the old high school year book. 

If anything I took from it, it wasn't the stereotypical

"Yeah man, I was the nerd and I proved to be more successful than all of them."

That was a foregone conclusion I knew in '91.

It was the shock at just how utterly low class, trailer trash and shitty people I had attended school with AND how they never escaped it, DESPITE being on the precipice of a major metropolitan area.  They had ALL of the opportunities a modern metro area provided and they still insisted on being and remaining trailer trash.  Not just the people I saw, but the stories I heard about former friends and acquiantences.  One went to jail, the other was dealing drugs.  Single parents about, and divorces were standard.  If anything it provided a lot of hindsight and proof that I wasn't insane back in the 80's and 90's, that these people (both present and in reference) were genuinely lower class.

The reason I bring this story up is not for revenge or "I told you so-ism," but rather to make a very important point for younger folk, especially kids who are in the current environment where all of their world seems commanded and controlled by the temporary and faux hierarchy of their school.

It is a FLEETING and TEMPORARY aberration.

I didn't believe it when I was in the thick of it, but when you graduate these people will be forced into the real world in one regard or another.  And in the end a person's true temerity, salt and worth is what is going to separate the wheat from the chaff.  Even with parental or government subsidy they will fail because it is the person, and their low caliber, that will fail them, not society.  And besides, you won't remember them as your life becomes preoccupied with more important shit and more important people. 

I didn't believe it, but it will happen.  The prom queen will fall.  The jocks will get fat.  And it isn't because of universal karma or "divine intervention," but because society, especially at the public school level, creates a a huge bubble of popularity, fakeness, and bullshit.  It is systematic and predictable.  It will prop up young kids to certain heights.  Kids with short term skills (throwing a ball, big boobs at an early age, etc.), but no long term ones (mathematics, logic, science).  Skills that only serve in that short lived environment.  And once that environment is taken away from your peers they will deflate like funding from Dotcoms in 2000 and their true value will show.

For years you will think that you want revenge, but if and when you see them you'll realize their real lives are all the revenge you'll need.  It will be so much revenge, you'll actually pity them.

And then you'll leave the bar and continue on with your life.

Paul Krugman - Economic Whore for Hire

The Evils of "Progressive Credentialism"

What is "progressive credentialism?"

How does it delay the incubation of the US labor force?

And how can you avoid it?

Well, just watch this video.

(on a very serious note, this video should be viewed by every 14-18 year old so they know what lies ahead).

"What Happened to Gold"

I woke up this morning to a text from my father.  My father, a former huge lefty, now is starting to notice what he was told doesn't add up to what is transpiring in the real world.  Matter of fact, I get the impression he almost feels violated for being lied to all these years and is even more conservative and angry than I am.  Regardless, since his economic epiphany he now approaches me with questions about the economy, politics and the like, the most recent one in his text was "what happened to gold."

I speculated at first. 

Market bumps. 

Margin calls.

The US dollar is gaining strength against other "less sucky" currencies and thus in terms of "relative" currencies the dollar is increasing.  But then something struck me.

"Wait, could it be that PAPER gold is going down while phyiscal gold isn't?"

With ABN Amro failing to deliver physical gold recently, that event could spook the markets, as it rightly should.  However, it would have an effect on paper gold, not physical gold, if anything increasing the price of physical gold at the expense of paper.  But since there is no separate quoting system between paper and physical gold, you would not see this difference or "premium" between the two.

Enter in my coin dealer. 

Last week I stopped in to see if there was a way to calculate a market "physical price" and he essentially said, "no, but."

The "but" being is that the dealer (who has to make a profit on his coins) is charged a premium by his supplier. And premiums HAVE BEEN GOING UP RECENTLY beyond the spot price.  This is the closest we can get to calculating the premium, the price suppliers are charging retailers, in excess of the spot price, because they only deal in physical gold. 

The moral of the story is to remember why you invest in gold or silver - as an insurance policy.  And your precious metals investments do you no good when they are merely claims on physical gold...

to be mined in the future...

in a mine in Australia...

that will be held in proxy by a gold ETF...

and the economy hits the fan.

In the future as unscrupulous banks and investment firms aim to profit off of the metals market, especially with their fractional reserve mentality, you can expect only a fraction of the paper gold to be backed by physical gold and the two markets to diverge significantly in the future.

The 3 Musketeers of the Manosphere

There are three sites that I would like to highlight because they are aggregator sites and they account for a fair amount of my traffic.

However, since they are aggregator sites you usually do not link to them since they do not produce or publish their own material.  This kind of creates an irony because they send out a TON of linkage, but rarely do we send any back.

Ergo, please consider getting on the good side or sending a link to a buddy for the following three aggregator sites:

Delusion Damage

Hawaiian Libertarian

Viva La Manosphere

Regret Having Children

Sunshine Mary has a post over here that triggered my little Google Trend searching:

What I love about this is that children (as well as divorce) is usually the first REAL challenge today's modern adult-children face in their lives.  Understand the average American youth is shielded from the harsh realities of life with parental or governmental money well into their late 20's, even 30's.  But once they have a child or get a divorce, there's no amount of government money, programs, or societal ass-kissing that can shield them from the consequences.  And thus, when their cushy life runs head on into the crushing realities of rearing/raising a child, they have buyer's remorse.  Thus, the trend upward in people searching for others who have search "regret having children" so they can forgive themselves for not wanting to raise their own children because...well, like...children are *whinny tone* "sooo haaaaard!"

Enjoy the decline!

The Underrated Life of the Stay-At-Home Husband

Frank let's out a screed I'm not necessarily against.  Matter of fact I agree with most of it, but then he let's loose on men who want to stay at home as "girlie."

Ouch.

And thus I think I have to defend those of us guys who are the stay at home types not so much to counter what Frank is saying, nor to lick our wounds, but to explain that there have been fundamental changes in the economic relations and roles between the sexes, changes that make being the "stay at home husband" the logical, wise, and correct choice for most men.

But first let me provide a caveat in that the following advice is meant for men and women without children, which I do believe addresses not only the majority of my readership, but Frank's specific targeted audience with his post.  If you have children then with today's taxes and cost of living, yes, both of you will have to work and the argument about who stays at home with the chillllldreeeennnnnnsszzz is moot.

Regardless, here are the reasons why you want to be the one to stay at home.

"Real Work" Sucks - And by "real work" I mean the traditional job where some aging boss who is unaware of the miracles of the internet, requires you to show up to an obsolete office, replete with unnecessary computers, and, oh, by the way, a really sucky commute.  I don't know why women in the feminist world thought that "work" was "fun" to the point they demanded it, but if you have ever worked a "real job" in your life you know it sucks.  You are not working for yourself, you are working for somebody else.  You are also not allowed to achieve your maximum because careers and real jobs are not designed to benefit you, but rather your employer.  And finally you are not working for you.  You are working for the shareholders of the firm.  Shareholders whose interests are the opposite of yours.  They want your salary low as possible and really couldn't care less about your career or advancement.  No, you are stuck in a job that pays you a sustenance level of income and only if you sell yourself and your mental health to a slave-like level of loyalty to your firm, are you going to reap anything approaching a "career."

"Stay at Home Work" Rules - Of course, just because I eschew real work doesn't mean I don't work.  I work all the time.  It's just not considered "real work" by the "real world."  It's stay at home, self-employed work.  Oh, laugh as you may as "stay at home office" or "self employed" usually carries the reputation and connotation as "person who can't find a job" and of course banks will never qualify you for a loan for "self employment income" isn't real income, but if you can be intellectually honest with yourself and pursue real work, just not for an employer, then you are light years ahead of the game.  "

Stay at home work" (SAHW), if pursued rigorously, seriously, and professionally means, in a shorter amount of time you will have more success than if you worked a "real job."  Not only because you are working for yourself, but because you will typically engage in work you like or at least work you have set up.  There are no meetings, there is no negotiation, there is no discussion, it is just you.  You are the Supreme Allied Commander and you get to decide, pursue and execute immediately and however you please.  This single efficiency benefit is what allows you to run circles around your would-be-employer-now-competitor.

In short SAHW is all about you and the benefits all go to you.  You actually enjoy your job, you can do it from home or the coffee store, you are allowed to complete tasks on your own time table and how you see fit, AND, did I mention, no mind-destroying, purposeless commute?  Doing what you like AND having an extra 2 hours per day over your commuting your contemporaries makes those that ridicule SAHW look like investment banking analysts plugging dotcoms in 1998.  Besides, just because it's work at home, doesn't mean it isn't manly.

I Like Sleep - Sleep is the most underrated benefit to human kind.  I enjoy sleeping in till 9 or 10AM.  I feel better, I'm healthier and I'm in a better mental mood.  I'm more productive and (more importantly) I'm more creative.  I can innovate and come up with ideas better than the coffee-junkie forcing themselves to stay awake during that Monday morning meeting.  Sure, you could be a "real man" and suffer sleep-deprivation, but why would you?

A Better Home - Sure, I'm the "girlie" stay at home boyfriend.  But guess what?  The house is in tip top shape.  Things are repaired.  The cars are in working order.  The fridge is full and when my girlfriend gets back we can go out because there ain't no chores to do.  Besides, do you know how much you save when you can do your own home and auto maintenance, not to mention how many manly points you get for being able to do those things?  Also, we don't need to increase our income tax bracket to pay for others to repair these things.  I learn to repair and maintain at home, requiring a lesser income, but same standard of living.  Why pay Barry and his legion of constituent parasites more than you have to?  Besides, you can't write off maintenance, repair and chore expenses.  Might as well do it yourself.

Taxes - On a related note, lower taxes.  Certainly, not having children helps in this regard, but still, why have a double income that will only send you into stratospheric tax brackets?  You, again, cannot write off house cleaning and maintenance, might as well have one person home doing that.

It's Easier - Sorry ladies, I've lived both lives.  The hard working corporate type and the"stay at home wife" life and you have go to be kidding me about how hard it is.  Really?  Cleaning, vacuuming, and laundry?  Really?  None of it takes that long and then I can watch Hogan's Heroes.  Not to mention the entire time I am doing "house chores" I can listen to my MP3.  THAT BEATS LISTENING TO SOME LOSER OF A BOSS IN A MEETING ANYDAY!  Not to mention, you don't have any boss watching over you every second.  You get to do your chores how you please and when you please.  You can leave any time you want, do anything you want, exercise during the day, as long as things get done, who cares.  But not a real job.  No no no.  You got a boss that wants you to look busy even if there isn't any work.  You got a boss that wants you to sit in a meeting that has nothing to do with your job.  Your boss wants to suck the life out of you, wasting your finite life, for shareholders who couldn't care about you and a government that wants a 40% cut.  Meanwhile forfeiting what really is a part-time job where 100% of your efforts go to benefit your family is worth their mental slavery and hell?  Sorry, whoever stays at home gets the better deal.

Physical Fitness - Since the standard "chores" only require part time amounts of work, this gives you ample time to stay in physical shape.  Never have I been in better physical shape than I am when I'm the stay at home boyfriend.  I run every other day, life weights opposite those days.  My girlfriend appreciates the physique and so will your girlfriend/wife.

Freedom and Fun - Obviously an underlying theme to all these benefits is your freedom to do as you choose during the day.  Not only will this result in you having the most efficient regimen or routine for the day, achieving the most amount of production and work, but you can also maximize your fun.  Don't let any stay-at-home husband/wife tell you otherwise.  They can sit down and have a cocktail watching the Price is Right.  You can play video games while grilling a steak.  And if the weather permits you can go out for a motorcycle ride.  Heck, even assuming you did have children, playing with the little rug rats certainly is more fun than writing TPR reports.

Fundamental Change in the Labor Market - Much as I lament society's utter failure to fully capitalize on the world's latest revolution, the fact remains it IS happening, just not at the pace I want.  If it were up to me, we would not longer have commutes, traffic jams, let alone downtown office buildings because the technology exists that you can work 97% of today's white collar jobs from home.  The technology exists, the software is secure, it is the obstacles in the form of aging gray haired bosses who can't let go of control and let people work from home.  However, as time has gone on (and more of these aging gray hair types die or FINALLY retire) saner minds are realizing there is no real reason to pay for the unnecessary expense of office space rental, computer expense, and printer expense.  Employees are more than willing to work from home and their younger bosses are letting them.  This means there is a more hospitable and growing environment to SAHW's and truth be told, that is the future.  The mockery and ridicule of people who are "self employed" or "home based business" types will end, because that is where the future labor market is heading.  You being the stay-at-home-husband merely positions himself for the future.

Basic Economics -  All the compelling and factual reasons above to be the stay-at-home hubby, in the end it is really a matter of economics.  Yes you may have that darwinistic male drive to excel and achieve, and yes you may have that biological drive to be a provider, but the economic reality and fact is that it plain financially isn't worth it being the "go getter corporate type" for most men.  First, society and politics are cheering for the woman to excel and exceed in the corporate world.  This manifests itself in outlandishly handicapped affirmative action programs where the bar is lowered so much for women corporations will go out of their way to create whole departments like HR and CSR departments to keep the government off of their asses.  Quotas, either explicitly stated or not, are in force, and no longer does the job go to the best candidate.  And women, who are disproportionately represented in HR are in fact sexist and will ply favor to women candidates.  In short corporate America has become corrupted to the point it is not only inhospitable to male employment, but is no longer worth your endeavor to become employed there.

Second, government and law in the form of taxation, not to mention divorce law, are also increasingly hostile.  Not so much towards men as much as it is the "bread winner."  If you are the bread winner, be it male or female, you are the one who loses half your assets, must pay alimony and must "provide for a previously expected standard of living."  You want to be "manly" and "be the man?"  Good luck.  That's too much risk to be a provider male.

Finally, are you kidding me????  Work the crappy corporate job and run the god damned rat race???  For once I fully and wholly agree with the most ardent of feminists.  Women SO should take over and be the sole bread winner and provider.  It is a no brainer.  Let them do all the real work, let them provide for the family, let them major in engineering, study calculus and physics.  We'll stay at home and clean, cook, whatever, and pursue our hobby/faux-career as an "artist" "musician" or "part time teacher."  The key issue for the likes of Frank and other men invested in their manliness is to not let their manliness blind them to economic realities.  If women and feminists are so adamant about them being GENUINE and TRUE equals, then I say let them have at it.  We should not look a gift horse in the mouth when given the option to stay at home, clean occasionally, repair the roof and change the oil, and of course pursue our "career" as a "children's book author."  Let them work hard, let them commute, let them tolerate and suffer psychotic bosses, let them sit in the meetings.  Even with the presence of children the life of the stay at home husband is INFINTELY easier and better than the working woman. It is simply a matter of letting go of unnecessary pride and letting leftist and feminist women have their dream in spades.

Baby Boomer Economics

"Of the participants who took out loans, the greatest percentage were to people in their 50s (34.2%), followed by those in their 60s (28.9%) and then by those in their 40s (27.3%). The increase among participants in their 50s was nearly double the increase among those under 30. This is based on an analysis of a subset of 1.9 million eligible participants in retirement plans that Wells Fargo administers."

No no!  Nothing to see here!  Back to your lives citizens.  Oh, and you youngsters!  You better hit the ground running.  We don't have time to train you.  You didn't have it as tough as we did.  I don't have time to explain this to you.  If you can't figure it out on your own, then you don't belong here.  You just aren't a team player are you?  You're not as wise as us and you should plan better for your future.  Matter of fact, can we borrow $45 trillion from your future?  We're really smart and you're too stupid to understand.  Didn't you hit the ground running?  Why, we told you it was a steep learning curve.  You're just not smart enough to understand this.  Answer our HR questions.  You don't know about HR?  Well, that's alright, you didn't hit the ground running and we didn't have time to train you.  You have to be a self-starter.  Didn't you pay attention to detail?

My gosh the lack of nursing home visits will sure be funny.  Perhaps we can securitize or commoditize "nursing home visits"?

"Hey grandpa?  Want a nursing home visit?  Well that will be 50% of your medicare payout this month and 60% of your social security check.  Good thing you 'paid into the system!'"

"I Don't Dress Up For You! I Dress Up for MYSELF!"

Of the many lies men will be told from the ages of 12 to...umm....death, one of the more misleading ones (that can trip you up for years unless you learn the deceit behind it) is,

"I don't do X for you!  I do it for myself!"

"X" being

dressing up
make up
working out
lingerie
etc. etc.

Right off the bat many of these "items" should prove to be an obvious lie.

What woman REALLY wants to wear make up?

What woman REALLY wants to work out? (hell, what man does?)

If you are REALLY going to do something for yourself, then it is by (a non-pejorative sense) selfish.  You truly don't care what other people think.  So when it comes Saturday day and the girlfriend is out of town, do you think I'm going to

wake up early
run 6 miles
clean the house
put on nice clothes
and fix the car

for myself???

Hell no!  I'm sleeping in till 11AM, drinking during the day, playing video games, and going out with the guys.  And on top of it I'm not dressing up for nobody!  It is a TRULY selfish endeavor and ergo if you're really "doing it for yourself" you will engage in vices and not virtues such as working out, glaming yourself up, etc. etc.

However, the reason this lie is so tricky is because when a woman says this, it is a half-truth.

While she is NOT dressing up for you, she IS dressing up for somebody else.  And that somebody else certainly is NOT her (at least in a direct sense).

Again, we revisit the realm where economics and sexuality meet.  Women are (primarily) driven by attention.  Attention from who?  Attention from anybody.

Oh, go ahead and threaten me with your Adria Richard's hallow threats, I'm sorry dearies, I have nothing left to lose.  Besides, this is a fact and is truth.  And if you don't like that...well, then maybe you really don't like being treated as an equal and perhaps like every other guy I could continue lying to your face to spare your precious little feelings.  But I'm sorry, I'm not a sexist.  I believe in the equality of the sexes so you'll APPRECIATE me treating you as a GENUINE equal and never daring to lie to you as that would be degrading. 

Anyway, women crave attention.  And the primary way (before social media) they can get that is by simply dressing the part.  This is why in large part you can be at a bar/club, see a group of girls LITERALLY dressed as ladies of the evening, approach them and get your butt shot down.  They REALLY weren't dressing that way for you, just as they technically weren't dressing that way for themselves.  They were merely dressing that way to get your attention and the attention of others.  And should a supreme specimen of man (professional athlete, celebrity, obvious rich man) approach them, that is also why they dressed that way or went to the gym.

In other words, don't be a fool on either end of this half-lie, half truth.  She really isn't doing it for you.  And, yes, in a roundabout way she is doing it for herself.  But she is ultimately doing it to garner the attention of other people, both men and women.