I was invited to speak at the Rule Zero seminar, which will be held online October 2nd and 3rd. And while the lion's share of the speakers' topics will be on how to get the girls, mine will take a more actuarial and practical approach - "Analyzing the ROI on the Pursuit of Women." AKA - "Maybe You Ought to Rethink Getting The Girls."
Regardless, mathematically calculating the "ROI on the pursuit of women" has forced me to dust off the ole economist skills, fire up my model programming abilities, spend hours pouring over data, and spend just as many hours merely thinking about whether said data and said model is calculating precisely what I want it to. And while this is the first attempt of it's kind to measure "the ROI of the Pursuit of women," the data I've compiled thus far is amazing and insightful, just as it is depressing and tragic.
While you'll have to sign up for the seminar to find my complete findings (which you can do by e-mailing me here: email@example.com, and to forewarn you, it's $597), I did want to share a unique subset of data as I believe it not only conveys to both men and women just how much work goes into finding your "special someone, but also shows two completely different dating strategies between the sexes, which in turn might help you adjust yours for better chances of success.
This subset of data is "# of people you will date before getting married." It's key to calculating the ROI of the pursuit of women because dating is a very costly and necessary endeavor (for men) in order to find a wife. Dating, however, takes on a very different nature for women because while it is a time investment on their part to go on dates, they actually profit from it economically as the majority of dates are paid for by men. Additionally, women do not "get dates" as much as they accept or reject them, further reduing whatever time investment they need to find a potential husband. This difference is made very clear in the number of dates the average man goes on before finding his wife compared to the number of men women date before finding their husband.
Average # of Women Men Date Per Marriage = 70.22
Average # of Men Women Date Per Marriage = 10.8
In other words, men date roughly 7 times as much as women, implying investment costs 7 times that of women.
But whereas a 7:1 ratio is very interesting in any activity between the sexes, there's an additional interesting tidbit within the data. For whereas the female data is relative stable averaging around 11 men per marriage, the men's data is slightly bimodal. The vast majority of men only manage 20 women to date before marrying (a majority of which is 10 or under), but another group of "serial daters" forms breaking the 100 and even 200+ line.
Interestingly enough (when age data was provided) these are not necessarily your older men who lived long enough to date that many women, but men in their 20's, 30's, even 40's, who were epitomal "players" that just dated a TON of women, almost to the point it would have to be a part time job. Furthermore, many of these men never reported marrying, just dating, posing the question if they even had intentions of marrying and should therefore even be considered in the analysis.
Regardless, if you have a keen eye you'll notice that there are not as many data points as a serious statistician would like. And as is often the case in economics, "You don't go to the war with the army you'd like. You go to war with the army you got" and this is the data I got. The data comes from a highly un-scientific video I put together since there was no other data or studies available measuring how many people an individual dates before marrying, so (like many economists) I had to go and create the data myself. But if you were a kind and charitable soul and wanted to help improve the integrity of the data, posting the following in the comments section would definitely help:
1. # of people you dated
2. # of times you were married, and
3. Your sex
4. AND NOTHING ELSE because I just need numbers, not a story or editorial about why or who or what....LADIES.
Additionally, if you were interested in attending this seminar, you can certainly e-mail me here at firstname.lastname@example.org, but tune into a pre-seminar show where me and the other speakers at the seminar discuss our topics and provide a little bit more information: