A reader of mine sent me a post from the Daily Telegraph. In it was the lamentations of a precious British snowflake who was complaining that no men were asking her out. She admitted in the first quarter of the post that women, being equal, should be approaching men as well, but dismissed this on the flimsy grounds that there's a chance approaching a man might annoy him. I was going to dismiss it on the grounds that the Daily Telegraph was a tabloid looking for click-bait like the Daily Mail, but when I looked up the Daily Telegraph, it seemed to be not only a legitimate paper, but a center right one as well.
Alas, I knew what I was dealing with. Another traditional, conservative, suburban "me too" republican type chick who is slowly realizing men are doing exactly what they were told by 60's-90's feminists, and leaving women alone. And it's scaring the hell out of her because deep down inside, no matter what women or feminists say, they want children, they want men, and the death of men approaching them strikes at this visceral genetic and darwinistic core.
Her solution, however, is telling, for it belies a vital and VERY important lesson about women that all men, especially young ones, must learn. So pull up a chair and gather 'round older brother Cappy as he pours himself a scotch and explains this lesson to you "lads."
First, you boys have to realize just what a coward this woman is. Leftist or rightist or not, after the 40 year cacophony of "rahrahfeminism,anythingmencandowomencandobetter," when it comes time to put up or shut up, she tucks her tail between her legs and BLATANTLY LIES saying "she doesn't want to inconvenience men" by asking them out. Huh, funny. Because that's PRECISELY what makes asking out and approaching women so daunting. You don't want to offend them, interrupt them, or come off as creepy or a stalker. Yet, men push through this blockade, and not only push through it, but spend untold mental and creative resources trying to make said approaches, charming, dashing, entertaining and above all else, successful. Still, despite saying they want "X" for 40 years, when it comes time to own up to the responsibility side of equality, they retreat faster than the French. This leads to...
Second, hypocrisy. Like Cafeteria Christians who pick and choose which aspects of Christianity they will and will not follow, your standard western feminists choose which aspects of feminism they want, and which aspects of traditionalism they want. When it comes to hard things, difficult things, or taking responsibility that comes with freedom and agency, they invariably play the "Why I'm Just a Traditional Girl Card." When it comes to easy things like education, cushy jobs, income, etc., then they can't pull out the "I'm A Feminist Who Demand's Equality Card" fast enough. Alas, why women are strangely absent when it comes to studying STEM, but demand equal wages. And why our precious snowflake above wants a man, but doesn't want to do any of the heavy lifting to get one.
This leads to the third point or question - is it just the precious snowflake, or is the eschewing of the responsibility that comes with equality a universal trait amongst women? Naturally, asking people out is just one aspect of equality between the sexes. But if we are to use it as a proxy, in this one regard, yes, MOST DEFINITELY, women as a whole are shirking their feminist responsibilities they clamored for and are RUSHING back to those traditional and hate-filled 1950's standards, insisting men must run the gauntlet and ask them out.
It is here we have to look at this phenomenon of cowardice and hypocrisy and recognize it for what it is:
An example of female inferiority.
Of course, this is nothing shocking to men and women who have intellectual honesty and live in the real world. We know men and women are different, and we know men and women excel at certain things the opposite sex sucks at. But according to feminists and feminist doctrine, this is IMPOSSIBLE. An instance of where women are inferior to men just cannot exist. But it does, and the lack of women approaching men shines a glaring light into the short-comings, dishonesty, falsehoods, and outright unfairness of feminism.
Now, we could write this off as something "cute" and entertaining as the "battle of the sexes" continues on. "How quaint! How precious! When it comes down to it, deep down inside, girls want to be girls despite all that kerfuffle about feminism and equality. They still like boys and want to be chased! OK boys! Go chase them!!! Tee hee!!!"
But there's two major problems with this.
One, though "cute" and "darling" on the outside, who asks who out is arguably the most important part of equality between the sexes, because it speaks to arguably the most important thing in life - sex. Procreation. The continuation of the human race. Family. And dismiss it as you may, all of civilization has been built and created by men pursuing sex and the continuation of their genetic line. There is nothing else men have historically vested and valued MORE than the pursuit, and invariable conquering of a woman. So when a man approaches a woman to inevitably inquire as to whether she'd like to procreate, he is opening his entire (at least genetic and darwinistic) value to her for judgement. And in doing so risks having his entire value, his entire being, his entire life judged as "not worth it" or "worthless."
Men do this at least THOUSANDS of times in their lives. We invariably build up a tolerance and a courage to rejection. Some even lose a bit of their soul and humanity as they've become so calloused to it (and these men move onto become "the players" women claim to hate so much). But regardless of the path, it invariably leads to traits men have that women don't - fearlessness, courage, intellectual rigor, pain-tolerance, and tenacity. And in these regards, men are blindingly superior to women.
But if this still doesn't convince you that "who asks who out" is likely the most important aspect of equality, consider this story. A female friend of mine had a crush on a male friend of mine. She would inquire about me setting her up, inviting them both to the same party, and doing all manners of theatrics to PUT HER IN THE PRESENCE of this young man. This went on for SIX MONTHS where she would inquire, ask, scheme, and plot to constantly be "conveniently" in his presence, all in the hopes he'd inevitably ask her out...which he never did. Inevitably I got sick of her asking me to pitch softballs over the plate and said, "Dude, just ask him out. You've been at this shit for six months! You'd have saved yourself all this time and energy and moved on regardless if he said yes or no." To which she started crying and sobbing uncontrollably at the MERE PROSPECT of having to ask a young man out.
The fact that a mere THOUGHT reduced an otherwise functioning, controlled woman into a sobbing mess suggests "who asks who out" is neither "cute" nor "funny," but flirting with one of the universe's most powerful forces.
The second problem is one of mootness or theoretics, because discuss this all we may, sorry ladies....men took what you said these past 50 years to heart. You know that CONSTANT BARRAGE of propaganda you've been feeding young boys starting in kindergarten through college that women are not only equal, but any expression of romantic or sexual interest can be construed as...well...choose your poison:
You know how you made it illegal to cat-call women and wolf-whistling a punishable offense?
Yeah, actions have consequences. And though most men may have honorable intentions, innocently intending to merely ask you out for coffee, the omnipresent and never-ending lecture that women are equal and approaching them can (and sometimes does) result in criminal charges or expulsion from school makes men somewhat loth to ask you out.
Of course, there is a silver lining to all this drama. And that is for the first time women are actually getting what they want - equality. And this equality is coming in the form of forced-responsibility and owning the consequence of their actions. They told men they were equals in the "who asks who out" game, and men believed them. They told men approaching them could be construed as harassment or stalking activity, and men believed them. And thus a dearth of men approaching women has resulted, lessening the chances these women will marry, have children, and otherwise live meaningful lives. This is cause for celebration, because I know, ladies, you all wanted equality. And by god you're going to get it in spades, whether you like it or not.
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