Thursday, September 01, 2016

Why Girls Will Never Ask Out Boys - Because They're Not Equals

A reader of mine sent me a post from the Daily Telegraph.  In it was the lamentations of a precious British snowflake who was complaining that no men were asking her out.  She admitted in the first quarter of the post that women, being equal, should be approaching men as well, but dismissed this on the flimsy grounds that there's a chance approaching a man might annoy him.  I was going to dismiss it on the grounds that the Daily Telegraph was a tabloid looking for click-bait like the Daily Mail, but when I looked up the Daily Telegraph, it seemed to be not only a legitimate paper, but a center right one as well.

Alas, I knew what I was dealing with.  Another traditional, conservative, suburban "me too" republican type chick who is slowly realizing men are doing exactly what they were told by 60's-90's feminists, and leaving women alone.  And it's scaring the hell out of her because deep down inside, no matter what women or feminists say, they want children, they want men, and the death of men approaching them strikes at this visceral genetic and darwinistic core.

Her solution, however, is telling, for it belies a vital and VERY important lesson about women that all men, especially young ones, must learn.  So pull up a chair and gather 'round older brother Cappy as he pours himself a scotch and explains this lesson to you "lads."

First, you boys have to realize just what a coward this woman is.  Leftist or rightist or not, after the 40 year cacophony of "rahrahfeminism,anythingmencandowomencandobetter," when it comes time to put up or shut up, she tucks her tail between her legs and BLATANTLY LIES saying "she doesn't want to inconvenience men" by asking them out.  Huh, funny. Because that's PRECISELY what makes asking out and approaching women so daunting.  You don't want to offend them, interrupt them, or come off as creepy or a stalker.  Yet, men push through this blockade, and not only push through it, but spend untold mental and creative resources trying to make said approaches, charming, dashing, entertaining and above all else, successful.  Still, despite saying they want "X" for 40 years, when it comes time to own up to the responsibility side of equality, they retreat faster than the French.  This leads to...

Second, hypocrisy.  Like Cafeteria Christians who pick and choose which aspects of Christianity they will and will not follow, your standard western feminists choose which aspects of feminism they want, and which aspects of traditionalism they want.  When it comes to hard things, difficult things, or taking responsibility that comes with freedom and agency, they invariably play the "Why I'm Just a Traditional Girl Card."  When it comes to easy things like education, cushy jobs, income, etc., then they can't pull out the "I'm A Feminist Who Demand's Equality Card" fast enough.  Alas, why women are strangely absent when it comes to studying STEM, but demand equal wages.  And why our precious snowflake above wants a man, but doesn't want to do any of the heavy lifting to get one.

This leads to the third point or question - is it just the precious snowflake, or is the eschewing of the responsibility that comes with equality a universal trait amongst women?  Naturally, asking people out is just one aspect of equality between the sexes.  But if we are to use it as a proxy, in this one regard, yes, MOST DEFINITELY, women as a whole are shirking their feminist responsibilities they clamored for and are RUSHING back to those traditional and hate-filled 1950's standards, insisting men must run the gauntlet and ask them out.

It is here we have to look at this phenomenon of cowardice and hypocrisy and recognize it for what it is:

An example of female inferiority.

Of course, this is nothing shocking to men and women who have intellectual honesty and live in the real world.  We know men and women are different, and we know men and women excel at certain things the opposite sex sucks at.  But according to feminists and feminist doctrine, this is IMPOSSIBLE.  An instance of where women are inferior to men just cannot exist.  But it does, and the lack of women approaching men shines a glaring light into the short-comings, dishonesty, falsehoods, and outright unfairness of feminism.

Now, we could write this off as something "cute" and entertaining as the "battle of the sexes" continues on. "How quaint!  How precious!  When it comes down to it, deep down inside, girls want to be girls despite all that kerfuffle about feminism and equality.  They still like boys and want to be chased!  OK boys!  Go chase them!!!  Tee hee!!!"

But there's two major problems with this.

One, though "cute" and "darling" on the outside, who asks who out is arguably the most important part of equality between the sexes, because it speaks to arguably the most important thing in life - sex.  Procreation.  The continuation of the human race.  Family.  And dismiss it as you may, all of civilization has been built and created by men pursuing sex and the continuation of their genetic line.  There is nothing else men have historically vested and valued MORE than the pursuit, and invariable conquering of a woman.  So when a man approaches a woman to inevitably inquire as to whether she'd like to procreate, he is opening his entire (at least genetic and darwinistic) value to her for judgement.  And in doing so risks having his entire value, his entire being, his entire life judged as "not worth it" or "worthless."

Men do this at least THOUSANDS of times in their lives.  We invariably build up a tolerance and a courage to rejection.  Some even lose a bit of their soul and humanity as they've become so calloused to it (and these men move onto become "the players" women claim to hate so much).  But regardless of the path, it invariably leads to traits men have that women don't - fearlessness, courage, intellectual rigor, pain-tolerance, and tenacity.  And in these regards, men are blindingly superior to women.

But if this still doesn't convince you that "who asks who out" is likely the most important aspect of equality, consider this story.  A female friend of mine had a crush on a male friend of mine.  She would inquire about me setting her up, inviting them both to the same party, and doing all manners of theatrics to PUT HER IN THE PRESENCE of this young man.  This went on for SIX MONTHS where she would inquire, ask, scheme, and plot to constantly be "conveniently" in his presence, all in the hopes he'd inevitably ask her out...which he never did.  Inevitably I got sick of her asking me to pitch softballs over the plate and said, "Dude, just ask him out.  You've been at this shit for six months!  You'd have saved yourself all this time and energy and moved on regardless if he said yes or no."  To which she started crying and sobbing uncontrollably at the MERE PROSPECT of having to ask a young man out.

The fact that a mere THOUGHT reduced an otherwise functioning, controlled woman into a sobbing mess suggests "who asks who out" is neither "cute" nor "funny," but flirting with one of the universe's most powerful forces. 

The second problem is one of mootness or theoretics, because discuss this all we may, sorry took what you said these past 50 years to heart.  You know that CONSTANT BARRAGE of propaganda you've been feeding young boys starting in kindergarten through college that women are not only equal, but any expression of romantic or sexual interest can be construed as...well...choose your poison:

sexual harassment
date rape

You know how you made it illegal to cat-call women and wolf-whistling a punishable offense?

Yeah, actions have consequences.  And though most men may have honorable intentions, innocently intending to merely ask you out for coffee, the omnipresent and never-ending lecture that women are equal and approaching them can (and sometimes does) result in criminal charges or expulsion from school makes men somewhat loth to ask you out.

Of course, there is a silver lining to all this drama.  And that is for the first time women are actually getting what they want - equality.  And this equality is coming in the form of forced-responsibility and owning the consequence of their actions.  They told men they were equals in the "who asks who out" game, and men believed them.  They told men approaching them could be construed as harassment or stalking activity, and men believed them.  And thus a dearth of men approaching women has resulted, lessening the chances these women will marry, have children, and otherwise live meaningful lives.  This is cause for celebration, because I know, ladies, you all wanted equality.  And by god you're going to get it in spades, whether you like it or not.
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ss said...

I love how the dipshit who wrote the article would rather shame men 'find your nads' then take action herself to remedy her issue at hand.

If I was a man in the bar and I could walk over to her...I'd say..."why the long face?"

"No one is talking to us."

Me: "Well get off your lazy, entitled female ass and go talk to someone for fucks sake."

Her: (Horrified look of the cold reality of responsibility.)

Me: (Scoffs as I walk off.)

CBMTTek said...

Reminds me a bit about the "husband store" joke.

"A brand new store has just opened in New York City that sells husbands. When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance:

"You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors and the value of the products increase as you ascend the flights. You may choose any item from a particular floor or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you CANNOT go back down except to exit the building!"

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
The 1st floor sign reads: Floor 1- These men have jobs.
The 2nd floor sign reads: Floor 2- These men have jobs and love kids.
The 3rd floor sign reads: Floor 3: These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good looking.
"Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the 4th floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4- These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead good looking and help with housework.

"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!" Still, she goes to the 5th floor and the sign reads: Floor 5- These men have jobs, love kids, are drop-dead gorgeous, help with housework and have a strong romantic streak.

She is so tempted to stay.

But she goes to the 6th floor and the sign reads: Floor 6- You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store!!

To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opens a New Wives Store across the street. The 1st floor has wives who love sex.
The 2nd floor has wives who love sex and have money.
The 3rd through 6th floors have never been visited."

Yep. Give women equality in dating, and they are not happy...

Hot Sam said...

Here is an article with some survey data. Men ask women out almost exclusively, and both men and women prefer it that way.

Anonymous said...

One of the few instances of actual power women have over men is their ability to reject. To deem a man unworthy is surely a thrill and women won't be giving up that role easily. The flip side is a different story. Being rejected is a wholly terrifying experience for women since their entire existence is predicated on their ability to attract men. That's why there's almost always a meltdown when a woman's advances get turned down. Cries of "you must be gay if you don't find me attractive" are a certainty as they try to rationalize why a guy would choose not to sleep with them.

Mombius Hibachi said...

"Like Cafeteria Christians who pick and choose which aspects of Christianity they will and will not follow, your standard western feminists choose which aspects of feminism they want, and which aspects of traditionalism they want. When it comes to hard things, difficult things, or taking responsibility that comes with freedom and agency, they invariably play the "Why I'm Just a Traditional Girl Card." When it comes to easy things like education, cushy jobs, income, etc., then they can't pull out the "I'm A Feminist Who Demand's Equality Card" fast enough."

This right here, is why there is no such thing as Red Pill Women.

Anonymous said...

You know this sounds a lot like what I went through years back when I went into a bar to deliver some documents to a friend of mine there. Mind you I don't drink so after I gave the stuff and chatted with my friend who was with some female acquaintances with one who I knew was really interested in me. Instead, I just walked out the door because I had to get up early to catch some great waves early in the morning.

And yes, I did notice the signs of interest from that one girl and my friend was trying to egg me on, prodding me on to stay with them, but nah, forget that. My friend gave me crap about how I lost an opportunity with that girl, blah blah blah.

Well, years later, I found out that the same girl got married, had a kid, and was in the process of a divorce. Apparently, she wasn't having fun and she cheated on her husband, or whatever. I didn't get the details, but I was thinking, wow, call me a loser anytime because surfing saved my butt!

Anonymous said...

Spot on. Great post, mate.

evilwhitemalempire said...

"she started crying and sobbing uncontrollably at the MERE PROSPECT of having to ask a young man out"
The closest a woman gets to asking out a man is nonchalantly announcing plans to go to the movies or some such.
And THAT is their idea of sticking their neck out.

Anonymous said...

I was asked by few girls all of whom were 9-10 out of 10, all nice and feminine, not some bitter fugly feminists. Probably they were well aware of their high status thus didn't had to worry about rejection.
I jokingly asked one "Have you ever heard 'no' to it?" and she in same joking way answered "No, my ego wouldn't be able to survive that". We both laughed and went on.

liberranter said...

Pure, unadulterated truth, Cappy (if anything, you probably sugarcoated it a bit overmuch).

I can't wait for the all the wounded snowflakes who read this (and you can bet that some femditorialst WILL bring it to their attention) to start shrieking "MISOGYNIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIST!!!!!!!!!!!!" to the high heavens.

Anonymous said...

"And that is for the first time women are actually getting what they want - equality."

No. Women don't want equality. Women never have. Women want men to put them in their place, feed them, water them, and pat them on the head occasionally—"Good girl."

Women will never bear responsibility for their actions, because they lack that capacity. It is NOT a good thing that women are failing to marry, are failing to have children, are failing to succeed at the great game of life.

To the author: you still subconsciously see men and women as equal, even though you yourself say we're not.

Mark Matis said...

Be careful, good sir! One is simply not allowed to call a spade a "spade". One must instead refer to it as a "small pointed entrenching tool" lest one be banned for insulting a group with standing on the Preferred Species ladder. After all, that is FAR worse than mere "niggardly".

Anonymous said...

you should make a youtube video on this. you would get mad views.

Peregrine John said...

This is the most freaking outstanding thing I've read in a long time. It's like discovering that no, you aren't crazy, things really are deranged.

'Course, so was The Curse of High IQ.

Anonymous said...

I've had a few attractive women approach me at bars. The first one I flirted with a little, and then rejected, because I had a girlfriend at the time that I knew without a doubt was a way better wife material than the woman at the bar. The rest I've rejected for fun. They always cry, I've never seen a man cry after being rejected. Reversing who has the power in the interaction is by far my favorite thing that radical egalitarians have done to gender dynamics. I find shattering the "entitled to any man they want" mentality very entertaining. I guess that makes me an asshole, but I can live with that.

Anonymous said...

Cappy, this is by far the best work you ever wrote - and that's after Curse of the High Iq.
I work as an expat and because of where I am, get hit on all the time be a lot women.
Their shock on their faces at their being rejected and the subsequent meltdown, when the shoe is on the other foot, speaks volumes of the whole "equality only when its convenient" modus operandi that women today have.
As I have said "I'm treating you as an equal, and now your complaining, because by those standards you are a coward".
It is however, bloody entertaining for me and my mates....

Tucanae Services said...

Uhhh Cappy what rock has thou been living?? It is obvious you have never been a parent.

During the high school phase of my son's existence girls were calling the house constantly about this or that to go somewhere, dates and otherwise. This was Texas, 1990's. But I can tell you the girls were very aggressive in the matter. My experience as parent does not match the paradigm.

My own experience was quite different of course. Yeah we asked the girls out but we also generally operated in pair packs. The group of twenty in my circle were talking to each other several times a day and if someone wanted an escort there was usually someone of the opposite sex interested in going. It was not unusual for 6 to 8 of us going somewhere.

Anonymous said...

I think the lonely girl is perhaps missing the point, or perhaps is being deceived in a rather different way than you point out. If she wants to be asked out more she has complete control of it. Lose weight, get in better shape, dress better, do a better job with your skin care, hair and other cosmetics. Be open a flirty.

Despite the pressure from feminists men are still horn dogs and ask women out all the time. If she ain't getting asked out it is because she hasn't elevated herself above the other options available to the men she encounters.

Of course the rad-feminists will like this answer even less. But there it is. It might not be a popular answer, but it certainly will work for her.

kaangonel said...

This was a good one. Saving up for future reference